Alcoholism. Treatment. Meditation

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Hi friend.

Today I will touch upon a topic that I usually try not to touch, this is alcoholism.

Why? Well, probably because alcoholism has not been recognized as a problem or a disease for many, many years. Moreover, it has become a part of the national Russian culture. Alcohol is a socially acceptable way of relaxation for our society. Drinking alcohol is a symbol and essence of the celebration of any event - public holidays, birth or death (commemoration), meeting with friends, dating lovers, and even just "Friday" with beer and a disco. Whatever you touch, all events, one way or another, are permeated with a thin red thread - the use of alcohol.

Moreover, the state also supports this so-called epidemic by allowing alcoholic beverages. Yes, their sale is regulated in a certain way - alcohol is not sold at night, to persons under 18, etc., but in general, the sale of alcohol to the population is encouraged by the state. With drugs, however, the situation is different. In this case, the state at least "conditionally" supports us in the fact that this is a problem: it is trying to control the circulation of narcotic substances, has provided for criminal liability for distribution, storage, and manufacture. To encroach on the holy of holies - alcoholism, so to speak, "entertainment" for the population, is not considered appropriate. In some of my castes, I talked about the reasons why alcohol is sold and encouraged by the state, but this is not about that now.

The most interesting thing is that people who consume alcohol in excessive amounts do not consider themselves to be alcoholics. And all because the concept of "excessive amount" is very vague in the minds of the average man in the street.

According to WHO experts, it is believed that a moderate (permissible) alcoholic dose includes one portion of an alcohol-containing drink per day, that is: for women it is vodka: 30 ml; wine: 150 ml; beer: 330 ml., and for men: vodka: 50 ml; wine: 250 ml; beer: 500 ml.

Excessive consumption is an excess of the maximum permissible dose and consumption: for women: from 3 servings per day or 7 doses per week., And for men: from 4 servings per day or 14 doses per week.

It turns out that people who drink a bottle of beer a day are already abusing. On weekends 3 - 4 bottles. And for them to drink such an amount is the norm. You can say as much as you like: “I don't drink, it's only 3 bottles of beer! Well, what are you ?!”, because“poltorashka”is very easy to drink, especially with a good snack and in the company, however, this is already an abuse.

All abusive people, as one say, that they, in principle, control the process and are not sick. They do not lie under the fence, in the entrances, and so on. We have formed a certain stereotypical image of an alcoholic, which is disgusting, extremely unpleasant. As a rule, this is a bum at the station, knocking over trifles from passers-by, a ragged, dirty, incomprehensible type. But they are not like that! They are normal people, relaxing after work or with friends, or perhaps at home with his wife they can afford a drink.

Telling them that in fact they are alcoholics and drug addicts, we only cause resentment and aggression. Although this is so, because alcohol is a drug, however, legal.

Most often, people who ask for help are relatives who say: “Here I have a husband / son / father who drinks, drinks. We don't like this. He's drunk."

If we start to find out the situation in general in such a family, then we find out that they all drink there. He's just a problem for them, tk. drunk, and everyone else is not drunk, but they drink absolutely everything. It is very rare that such a family does not drink. And then, it can be an independent wife who is simply already allergic to alcohol. And she says: "No, no, I've seen so much in my life that I won't drink."

The difficulty lies in the fact that alcohol is allowed, it does not have a criminal loop like drugs, and the use occurs without a twinge of conscience. Pay attention to the losses that await the person. You know, the loss of a drug addict is incomparably greater, incomparably faster than the loss of an alcoholic. For an alcoholic, this is a protracted leap into the abyss. For a drug addict, everything proceeds much faster. You can play a few notes and end up at the bottom, or even at the cemetery. And alcoholics can drink "without drying out" for decades. Therefore, it is more difficult with alcoholics, and helping him at the stage when he has denial, advising him to stop drinking - only cause a negative reaction in his address.

For the most part, people grumble, slip all sorts of brochures, newspapers - "On, read - this is about the dangers of alcohol." Remember! Nobody ever listens to anyone. Moreover, you will cause allergies, hostility. And, perhaps, later, when you advise a really worthwhile book or look at me, for example, and he is already used to seeing from you these obsessive attempts to "save him", he will say: "No, move away." And this is how it ends

In general, I urge either to accept a person as he is, or to break off relations, maintain a distance, and build their boundaries. You should have your own, so to speak, legal state, in which you mean: "This is possible, but this is not possible." The only way. Don't make concessions. Thus, you at least make it clear that this behavior is unacceptable.

Either you accept it as a drinker - “We love you. Why isn't there? Well, this is how you drink with us. Or you build relationships through tough love. And this relationship includes a ban on drinking alcoholic beverages in any quantity. In any.

It is necessary to clearly understand that if a person suffers from alcohol addiction at any stage, then he basically lacks self-control. But for sure there is, tolerance to substances. That is, not only does he not know how and when he will deliver him, he also thinks: "Now I will drink a couple of bottles, what will I become?" this place. And it's still good if the consequences are not stabbing. Like this.

A rehabilitation center in case of alcohol addiction can only help if a person has tried different coding methods, went to a narcologist, and underwent hypnosis. It is in human nature that everyone wants a quick result with minimal investment: I drank a pill, coded, ukolchik, set a "torpedo", hemmed it and, it seems, I don't drink. And after each breakdown, the addict sees that he loses more and more from his life, from the social, from the family piece. And only then the thought may come to him - "Why not try long-term therapy?"

After all, long-term rehabilitation is different. This is a long-term treatment with a change in thinking, attitudes towards alcohol, and much more. Not everyone is ready to exchange a bed next to his wife or home for rehabilitation. The person must be forced to do this. How? He shouldn't have a choice. Either that or goodbye. And if you have strict conditions regarding this, then the addict has a chance to change. At least he wants to try it.

It is not a fact that this will work with alcoholics, especially with women who are alcoholics. This is a very difficult task. Incredible complexity. As if nature takes revenge on women for the fact that they, giving birth and continuing the race of mankind, destroy themselves, as if the program of nature puts “Delete” on them and erases them. I'm talking about women, but in principle anything is possible. You know yourself - anything is possible.

I touched on this topic at the request of my friends, who say that it is now relevant. Really relevant. I have had very few calls regarding alcoholics. True, very few. Because a person until the last moment believes that he is not an alcoholic. Partly because there is a false attitude “Who doesn’t drink, show me?”, And partly because of the fact that his family supports him in this. This is due to the fact that they already had experience: they were encoded for six months and during these six months turned the life of the family into Hell, everyone hated him and said: "It would be better to drink than such sobriety." Therefore, they gave up on him and accepted him as he is.

But there is a way out. I say it again. You can force a person only through tough love, certain boundaries and clear regulations. And if he does not respect you and is not going to listen, then I have a question for you: “Who are you? Who are you? Why are you treated like that? Why do they talk to you like that? Why are they not reckoning with you? Why did you put yourself like that? There are also questions for you.

See you.