2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Who is more likely to become a rapist or seduce children?
Who punishes children and screams more often?
Who is more inclined to think that a spanking is justified?
Oddly enough and sadly, but usually all this is done by the same people who themselves were subjected to violence in childhood (even physical, even by an adult), who were beaten, shouted and deprived of love if something happened.
It seems strange, because it hurt so much, it was difficult then ourselves. But it is imprinted on the structure of the personality and it comes out that way.
And then there is the Stockholm Syndrome, when the hostages, under the influence of the strongest experience, suddenly begin to … feel sympathy and even justify the aggressor.
Psychologists in their practice sees how trauma of attachment in childhood, destructive relationships with parents greatly affect not only what kind of parents these children will become, but also how their personal life will develop!
📍Can I change the script?
It is possible, but a very great awareness is needed, deep work on oneself and more often not independent.
After all, there are parents who find the strength not to repeat the destructive upbringing scenarios passed down from their generations.
And the most amazing thing about this is that that courageous person who decides to violate the motto: "Well, they spanked us, well, they shouted at us, and the normal ones grew up" - this daredevil will most likely lay a healthy example of upbringing and relationships not only in his family, but also give a chance to your children, grandchildren and other descendants to be more psychologically stable individuals, able to build more harmonious relationships not only with children, but also partners!
Divorces … that's a different topic. But how often broken attachments in childhood also lead to this. And hence the inability to build strong, close, trusting, secure relationships with others.
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