2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Can we completely cleanse ourselves of criticism? I ask myself this question and am not sure if I can answer "yes". Probably the culprit for this, I will choose our imperfection. We look around and see defects. They are in many areas of life. Deficiencies in the education system, maintenance services suffer, processes are poorly done at work, a neighbor is rude, etc. During the day, if desired, you can collect a bunch of problematic moments in the outside world. But our inner world notices all this!
It would seem that everyone just needs to understand that people reflect something of ours. It's so easy to take and remember this. In case of irritation, do not complain about others, but look at what we lack. Good to say, but difficult to do. However, if every time we investigate what grows in our field “is not enough for me”, then at least we can reduce the critical attitude.
I believe that in the concept of "not enough" we are guided by 2 spheres: material and spiritual. The material includes the place of work and the level of salary, movable and immovable property, food, clothing and leisure. Actually what we can objectively compare with others. At the same time, each of us invests our values and priorities in different segments of the material level. It is important for one person to buy expensive clothes and cars, but live in a rented apartment. Another prefers quality and varied food with no interest in clothing.
The spiritual realm is very individual and intimate. These are our emotions, feelings, experiences, needs, experiences in the past. The way we live our lives based on our inner component. There is a lot of deficit in this area. Lack of love, praise, attention, acceptance, understanding, sympathy, complicity, admiration, approval, etc. When we look at the lives of others, especially now through the screens of computers and mobile phones, seeing beautiful photos, it seems to us that there is no suffering there. There is a feeling that others do not have internal requests like ours. At this moment, dissatisfaction with ourselves and our own life appears, which we transfer to others through criticism.
Our "insufficient" is influenced by the efforts we make to fill this gap. For example, to buy an apartment, we work from morning to night, with a manager with whom we did not agree. The treasured amount is still far away. At this moment, we will pay attention to those who have already bought an apartment, or receive it from their relatives. Another example: we do everything at work, if only the boss finally praises us, and he encourages another colleague.
Will criticism arise in these cases? Will be! Due to the fact that the efforts do not correspond to the level of our satisfaction is "not enough". When we are inquisitive, with a thirst for life, we want to learn a lot. It will never be enough for us. However, if we satisfy this inquisitiveness, then our "not enough" is a matter of time, it is most often in balance. In this case, the efforts are consistent with the results. Therefore, it is very important to strive for balance, realizing that criticism coming from us is our deficit, but since we are not Gods, we cannot achieve a state of 100% satisfaction. At the same time, with each of us there are periods "at this moment I am happy and I have enough of everything."
Be more in touch with yourself, then you will criticize less, and criticism of others will not hurt you.
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