2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If a person is convinced of the attainability of the ideal and makes every effort to this, we are talking about perfectionism. The latter, however, we call the desire of the individual to establish inflated requirements and standards for the results of their activities. As a result, such a position is accompanied by constant self-criticism, lowers the ability to enjoy the results of activity, and contributes to a decrease in self-esteem.
Pedantry is arrogant formalism, exactingness and accuracy, a person's tendency to scrupulously maintain the usual order in the smallest detail.
I propose to try to understand these concepts, to highlight what generalizes and distinguishes them.
Differences between pedantry and perfectionism
1. For a pedantic personality, form is more important than content. That is, the main thing is to clearly follow the rules, regulations, instructions, to maintain the usual order. For a pedant, attention to detail, accuracy is the inner need of the individual to put everything into the form, in order to avoid anxiety. These character traits appear regardless of whether other people like it or not.
For perfectionists, form is not as important as it is with pedants. At the same time, its significance is not completely leveled out. Perfectionists are more fixated on the content, or more precisely, on the result of the idea. They are not always punctual and often do not fit into the deadline for completing the assignment; maintaining order and cleanliness is not as important to them as pedants. In everyday activities - dishes washed to a shine, a perfectly brushed coat, a synopsis written without corrections - for a perfectionist it may not matter at all. At the same time, if he performs responsible, important work that should be evaluated by other people (from the outside), the perfectionist will show scrupulousness, focus on, at times, insignificant trifles. Hence, through pedantry, perfectionists seek to avoid failure and criticism. Fearing mistakes, the perfectionist tries to do the job as accurately and correctly as possible.
2. Perfectionists try to achieve the ideal in large-scale affairs, pedants in small ones. For example, a perfectionist strives to have a book written flawlessly, or the renovation he has done is perfect. For a pedant, it is important that the documents are kept correctly and without corrections, or, for example, that the cup is in its place.
3. A perfectionist's assessment of his own performance depends on external factors: the higher the praise or recognition from significant people, the more pleasure the perfectionist gets from the result, and the higher his self-esteem. Pedants, on the other hand, evaluate their work in accordance with personal (internal) beliefs and attitudes.
4. Pedants, in comparison with perfectionists, are more conservative. If it is important for a perfectionist to go forward, to achieve high results (for the sake of perceiving his own I), then it is more important for a pedant to maintain order and stability at the existing level.
Common to perfectionism and pedantry:
1. Increased level of anxiety. The relationship between perfectionism and anxiety has been documented in the works of many scholars. Both pedantry and perfectionism are based on the inner comfort inherent in the increased level of anxiety.
2. Rigidity, no flexibility. If the basis of a person's flexibility lies in arrogant anxiety, then over time he develops his own strategies of behavior, thinking, reaction, contributing to its "weakening". Due to the formed behavioral, emotional, cognitive strategies, pedants and perfectionists find it difficult to remain flexible in different situations, to find new ways to solve problems.
3. Long-term experience of traumatic situations. Perfectionism and pedantry involve fixation, fixation of the personality on one's own mistakes. For a pedant, this means that he was unable to organize, streamline his space, that is, he cannot control it, which, in turn, causes strong emotional experiences. For a perfectionist, confronting error and criticism means a decrease in self-esteem, a non-perception of one's own self, followed by a belief that others do not perceive it.
4. Arrogant thoroughness. Pedants and perfectionists put a lot of effort into flawless performance in their work.
5. Doubts about the correctness of their actions. It is important for the pedant to repeatedly double-check to make sure whether he has turned off the light, gas, and whether he has sealed the envelope well. Perfectionists are also insecure about the correctness of their results, since it is not they who evaluate it, but other people. Therefore, their doubts are connected with dependence on the assessment of their activities by others.
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