2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If your husband does not bring money, and you are pounding to earn money for everyone, you have no man. You have a communal neighbor carrying food from your fridge. If your roommate earns exactly for himself, and you pound yourself to feed yourself, you do not have a man. An acquaintance is visiting your house for nothing.
For the third year now, I have been answering girls' Friday questions, and all this time, one moment worries me. On average, Friday questions are of three kinds.
The first - I don't have a man, I feel bad and scared, I got sick of fighting for my life, plus everyone offends me, what to do, where to get a man?
Second - I have a man, but everyone offends me, I am sick of fighting for my life, I feel bad and scared, what should I do?
Third - I have a man, but this man offends me, I feel bad and scared, plus I got sick of fighting for my life, what should I do?
Terminology issue
It looks as if we are talking about different situations. In the first case, the problem is clear - there is no man. There is no one to help, no one to intercede, no one to console. Therefore, it is bad and scary. In other cases, there is a man, i.e. it is understood that this is not the person's problem. And some other. And it is bad and scary for a person for some other reason. And a person does not have this problem, this is another case.
Thus, the "bad and scary" situation breaks down into three cases. Bad and scary, because there is no man. It’s bad and scary, because the man is there, but he doesn’t do anything. Bad and scary, because there is a man, and he does bad and scary.
If all three equations are correct, and at the same time they have the same first part, this means that the second parts of these equations are also equal to each other. "There is a man, but it is still bad and scary" and "there is a man, and therefore it is bad and scary" equal to "there is no man." These are not three different cases. This is the same case and is described by the first equation.
There is no need to fence a garden and multiply entities. If you feel bad and scared, it means that you do not have a man. A mistake has crept into the terminology.
If your husband does not bring money, and you are pounding to earn money for everyone, you have no man. You have a communal neighbor carrying food from your fridge.
If your roommate earns exactly for himself, and you pound yourself to feed yourself, you do not have a man. An acquaintance is visiting your house for nothing.
If you urgently and desperately need money, and your boyfriend cheerfully replies that everyone has difficult times and everything will work out, you do not have a man. You have a friend, and not even a very close one.
If you have a heart attack, and your lover on the phone commands "urgently run to the doctor" - you do not have a man. You have a warm and sympathetic Facebook friend.
If you are crying, and your beloved advises not to take a steam bath because of nonsense and not wind up yourself, you do not have a man. In terms of proximity, this is approximately a taxi driver.
If a person has a male anatomy and even puts it in you from time to time, this is not called "you have a man."
Determining if you have a man is very easy. If you have it, you are not bad or scared.
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