9 Personality Traits Of Addicted People

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Addicted people hold themselves accountable when things don't go the way they expected.

Sometimes, in order to focus on the relationships themselves, people, without knowing it, come to dependence on them. This is due to its high susceptibility. You have to ask yourself, "Am I an addict or do I just have some matching personality traits?"

Below are the traits associated with the manifestation of a dependent personality. They are not always easy to identify and apply to yourself, because it can be difficult to look so deeply. Each person finds himself at a crossroads, where he must decide whether to continue down the path or follow the difficult path of self-development.

Those who choose the first road are waiting for the abuse of alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, shopping or relationships.

1. Dependent people find it difficult to make day-to-day decisions without advice and reassurance

The emphasis is on everyday solutions. If we were talking about some important life changes, then, of course, you would discuss your decision with family and friends in order to hear their opinion on this matter. But the addicted person has difficulty and fear with the usual daily questions, fearing that they will do something wrong.

2. They use other people to make decisions and take responsibility for them in all spheres of their lives

Seeking help from another person when it comes to a very important area of life is one thing. Expecting someone to take responsibility for you is different. People with addicts transfer responsibility and control of the largest areas of their lives to another person out of fear that they themselves will not cope with this alone, since they perceive every life problem as an insurmountable difficulty.

3. Out of fear, they are afraid to show their disagreement on certain issues

You may have heard the phrase, which, in my opinion, is mocking: "Everyone has the right to their own opinion, as long as this opinion coincides with mine." The addicted person does not feel worthy to express an opinion that differs from that of others.

4. Try their best to avoid new projects or independent actions

Addicted people are afraid to start something on their own, as others can understand how "useless" they are. They are afraid of failures that will expose their weak points in front of society, they avoid taking the initiative.

5. Feel unhappy if they are alone, or think that they are in danger of this condition

Addicted people often expect the worst. They cannot live their own lives without others. That thought of loneliness alone makes them feel insecure and vulnerable. She makes them depressed. Addicted people sincerely believe in Murphy's Law: "If there is a possibility that some kind of trouble can happen, then it will definitely happen."

6. Make themselves guilty if something went wrong

Life consists of many events, sometimes they can be negative. Dependent people, due to insufficient love and confidence in themselves, believe that they are to blame for the current circumstances, even if it is obvious that nothing depended on them in this case. They blame themselves not only for the events that happened, but also often take the blame of other people upon themselves.

7. Feel responsible for fulfilling the expectations of others

In a relationship, the addict takes the expectations of others as his own. Thus, when he fails, he believes that he does not justify not only his own hopes, but also the other person. Each failure reinforces a destructive judgment.

8. Constantly need the approval of their actions and actions by other people

Addicted people need validation and validation as desperately as an alcoholic craves a drink and a gambler craves a jackpot. When they receive approval, their emotional state evens out, at least temporarily.

9. They have no personal boundaries and are unable to protect them

The only real boundary that an addict has should be in the area of the desired relationship. All other personal frameworks, vague and contractual, are used to maintain a comfortable relationship.

The willingness to negotiate personal boundaries for relationships makes these people very vulnerable. Some use this pathological feature for their own selfish purposes to satisfy their needs.

So, it is difficult to accept the truth about yourself, but it is the path to freedom. The addict wastes their time and energy trying to maintain an unnecessary relationship. To get rid of this addiction, you need to understand your value and try to establish relationships based on truth.