2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The main thesis of this text is that any experience is organized as a neurosis. And if we take this thesis as a starting point in understanding mental regulation, there is no point in talking about mental health in general. If mental health is replaced by the concept of a conditional norm, then the norm will not be the absence of neurosis as the beginning of pathology, but the minimum degree of its severity, which performs important regulatory functions
As you know, one of the most important findings of Freud was the idea that neurosis is the result of an intrapersonal conflict, while psychosis concerns the relationship between the subject and reality. The central theme of intrapersonal conflict, in modern terms, is finding a balance between belonging and autonomy. From the theory of object relations, we understand that personality is a consequence of the accumulated experience of relationships with caring people and individuality appears in the course of successive identifications and assignments of images of other people.
A neurosis arises when an object appears. Any healthy communication is a neurotic decision precisely because it recognizes the existence of a different object from myself, invested by my interest. In this plane, a mentally healthy, that is, devoid of neurosis, is a subject with a malignant narcissistic disorder who denies the separateness of the Other and treats him as an extension of himself. Therefore, neurosis as a structure of relationships grows out of a schizoid-paranoid situation, within which it is impossible to survive the loss, since for this you first have to abandon the idea of omnipotent possession.
A paradoxical situation arises - the loss of the narcissistic position and the recognition of the Other as a separate object helps the subject to come closer to a better understanding of himself, since in order to meet the Other, first it is necessary to move as far from him as possible, that is, to carry out a qualitative separation. Therefore, neurotic compromise is the basic condition of the relationship.
Good separation presupposes not only the separation of oneself as an autonomous subject, but also some detection of the same subjects around. The oedipal conflict introduces the personality into the world of the human multitude, therefore neurosis is not the border between health and pathology, but between dissolution and loneliness.
Neurosis is the last stronghold of individuality, since the absence of any conflicts presupposes total transparency and permeability of the boundaries of the inner world. A conscious and clear person - someone who surrendered ahead of time to chaos and uncertainty, resembles a one-page text that can be understood by running your eyes over a line. A neurotic is one who continues to doubt even that he doubts, because stopping doubt is tantamount to mortification, incarnation into the interior or part of someone else's body. A situation in which someone has healed all his neuroses and finally knows himself is synonymous with the ascension of the death instinct, since it condemns the subject to endless repetition of once mastered knowledge. Neurosis, like an invisibility cloak, protects the flimsy shoots of the unconscious from the incinerating gaze of the rational, competent and effective.
Neurosis as a violation of the norm is revealed through the observation of certain ego-dystonic phenomena *, the intensity of which may be within the tolerable or not. In the second case, we can say that the regulatory function inherent in neurosis can no longer cope with its tasks and an analysis of the relationships in which this occurs is required.
Now I will express a completely seditious idea. A neurosis becomes a pathology when it ceases to be a neurosis and, instead of a foundation for building relationships, begins to perform other functions. For example, it fixes a distance or keeps an object incomprehensible or builds relationships within a split-off pole.
Therefore, we can say that neurosis is still an interpersonal conflict, a conflict in the sense of a condition for interaction. As a norm, it forms the possibility of relationships, and as a pathology, it makes relationships stereotyped and deprived of life. Devoid of neurosis, the person is a borderline personality that avoids attachment, since it activates pre-oedipal horror or a conformal mechanism, nourished by a totalitarian sect, which has found its personal infantile paradise in attachment.
It seems to me that in our beautiful narcissistic time it is vitally necessary to have some carefully nurtured neurosis that affirms reality and indicates in it the coordinates of personal presence.
* EGO-DISTANT - desires, impulses or thoughts that are considered by the subject as unwanted, incompatible or inconsistent with the standard.
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