2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Is it possible to fundamentally change your life by dyeing your hair, changing your clothing style, social circle, work, making repairs in your apartment? Why might it work in some cases and not in others?
The first and most important thing to remember when we talk about change is that you shouldn't expect a quick effect. And all the trainings that promise to radically change your life in two hours never do it. Positive change requires systematic personal investment, effort, time, and motivation. And the more serious the planned change, the more energy will have to be spent.
Now let's return to the situation when, if they want to change (for example, in an effort to get out of the crisis), people follow the advice about changing their hairstyle, clothes, social circle, place of residence, etc. Could this help? Yes maybe. If the conditions for positive change that I mentioned earlier are met. Let's take a closer look at them.
1. You have probably already noticed that the listed changes are purely external. External influence alone is not enough. That is, the initiative that comes from you should not stop. Because the joyful experience you get right away will pass away just as quickly. And sudden creative solutions will become commonplace. It is important not to get upset that “everything is the same again”, but to continue to act and influence your life in different ways.
2. So, we have already realized that decisions will need to be made over and over again. But the puzzle doesn't end there. Various decisions will have to be made. This is called divergent thinking, when you need to find several suitable solutions for one problem.
Can small changes affect our success and well-being? They can.
For example, research has shown that making yourself a sandwich in different ways every day will increase your creativity (S. Ritter). Divergent thinking enhances creativity. Why is creativity important? Because it is directly related to spontaneity and flexibility of thinking, and their development is critical for psychological well-being. If we are not spontaneous, we become predictable and boring because we follow the same roles and behaviors. If we do not have flexibility of thinking, we limit ourselves in choice, continue to apply already outdated solutions for new situations, which, obviously, ends in failure. The world around us is constantly changing, and the more we are able to adapt to change, the more effective we can be in the process of achieving our own goals.
The same goes for situations where we are trying to find the “right”, “proven” and “reliable” way to solve our problems. We deprive ourselves of the opportunity to show our own abilities, to realize our potential. We hurt ourselves if we believe that there is only one right way to solve a problem.
3. Change will be exciting but meaningless if it does not reflect our values. Therefore, it is important to correlate the direction you are moving towards with what you would like to strive for and what you would like to avoid. If you are not sure of your values, or certain values have outlived their usefulness, and new ones have not yet appeared, experiment, and, quite possibly, there will be even more options than you could imagine.
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