Give Yourself The Opportunity To Change Your Life

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

One of the difficult moments in work is that people do not give themselves the opportunity to escape from their injuries and problems. They seem to have come to work, but there is little progress. We all walk around the bush. There are people who do not go anywhere to decide anything at all, because nothing can be decided. In many cases, it is not a force of circumstance. Yes, you can't fix everything in the world. The point is that you need to somehow start to live so that it does not happen and does not happen. For example:

1. There are situations where suffering is socially acceptable. Moreover, society prescribes suffering because "this is normal." If a person from some moment ceases to suffer and suffer, then his loved ones, literally, stumble back into suffering. “Divorced and stayed with children? Something too happy face. " In addition, many believe that violence of any kind in a person's life should leave an indelible wound on the heart, which should be checked regularly to see if it has healed.
2. "Nizabuduni forgive". If something bad happens to a person, then he must maintain the fire of hatred in himself.
3. " I have changed". Yes, people change constantly, the brain undergoes changes, but there is a category of people who meditate on the fact of changes for a long time and actively. “When I was 20 years old, I was easy-going and initiative. Now I have changed. I'm not like that at all. Uzhos-uzhos "(this is usually a conversation about the fact that the changes have put a fat and indelible point in a person's life)
4. "Others are to blame." When a person constantly thinks about the guilt of others, he completely deprives himself of the opportunity to change something in life. It turns out that everything is normal with him, with others it is abnormal. And since it is impossible to remake people so that they only do everything for my beloved's benefit, it is impossible, such a position puts a fat cross on any progress forward.
5. "Life is not fair to me." Yes, damn it, that's the way it is. In some situations, life is unfair to us. Not always everyone is rewarded what they deserve, not all our plans and expectations are realized. But life will not be fairer if you keep this conviction to yourself at all times. And then, if you didn’t get what you wanted, rest assured that others didn’t get what you have.
6. The fear that after you quit running in a circle with your trauma, you will have to do something in essence.

For many, to stop running around with a problem or start working with negative experiences in their lives means giving up, showing weakness. In fact, many painful life stories and situations must be taken for granted, push off from them and start living. In general, at one point, you need to take responsibility, get out of the past into the present and let your wounds heal calmly. Better yet, treat them. To say to myself, “I don’t suffer, and this is good. I stopped torturing myself and mocking myself.” Naturally, psycho-traumatic material is little available for comprehension. People unnoticeably pick it up, making themselves unhappy. If you want to stop bullying yourself, pay attention to the following things:

1. You are constantly complaining about the same thing.
2. Thoughts are constantly spinning in my head about what people should do so that you do not get negative experiences.
3. Constant anxiety that something was done wrong in the past, and how it was characterized then, and how it undermined your present and future.
4. The inability to forgive yourself for something in the past and constant thoughts on the topic "despicable me".
5. Building diagrams for others what they should do so that you do not have unpleasant experiences.
6. The past does not allow something to be done in the present.
7. Jealousy for someone else's success.

These are all - iron anchors that do not allow going anywhere in this life. The anchor is in the ground, the chain is tied to your leg, all you can do is run around the anchor. What you can do for yourself to start moving somewhere and get off the leash:

1. Live in the present, acknowledge your past and plan for the future. People tend to live in the past or the future, and literally run through the present with their eyes closed.
2. We must respect our abilities and the opportunity to develop these abilities. People can learn a lot. But perfectionism must be left aside. Many people do not need, in principle, to reach transcendental heights in some matters. There is no point in discarding the fascination with astronomy, if already at this age they do not take astronauts.
3. We must admit that no matter how hard you try in life, there are bad times, you may not cope with something, pass, worry and roll back. This is a normal part of life. Not everything can be controlled. The whole problem is that many people, when they fell, do not allow themselves to rise and recognize themselves as legless.
4. Accept the fact that pain in life happens, and without it, you can't go anywhere. This is the same wound on the heart that can be picked or healed. No one needs to be told about the recovery process for people who have been physically injured. Those who move and work with themselves recover much faster than those who lie in bed and do not move.
5. We all have false attitudes and garbage in our heads that we collect during our life. Find them and put them in your head. And even more so, avoid situations where you can collect additional trash in your head.