2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When I'm desperate, depressed. Longing and loneliness are eating me up.
The first habitual pattern of my thoughts - I am terrible, stupid, the whole world is against me and I will not survive in any way.
A childish feeling that the world is about to collapse, and I am with it. Because I can't do it.
If I stick further into these thoughts and feel insignificant, I can stay here for a long time. Then apathy sets in. Autumn is the time for such a state.
I can’t do anything, I won’t succeed. I'm shit. I do not want anything.
I compare myself with others who have everything great in life. They are super smart, successful and happy, and I am so unhappy and there is no way to help that.
Progress is noticing your habitual way of thinking and acting.
The next step is to stop your thought flow. Well, yes, now is not the best period in your life. Now it is difficult, but it will surely pass, if these feelings are not repulsed.
When I know where I am. Why do I have these or those thoughts. I know how I feel and about what.
I know myself in this place and even know how this state will change. Then it's easier.
You just need to wait a bit. The main thing is not to be alone.
If you recognize yourself, then you are just the same living person.
Are you okay.
So what to do with this crap?
Longing and sadness, the rules of self-support and help
Especially in autumn, especially when it is gray, especially in the city.
1. Now it is difficult, but it will surely pass … Everything is temporary, and one state is always replaced by another. This is the most basic thought that can warm you. Remember how bad you felt a year ago, and maybe 5. Now you are here, reading this text, and that means you did it then. So I found ways to live on and enjoy. If it is bad now, it will not always be so.
2. If you are feeling desperate. Terrible. Stupid. The whole world is against you, and you will never survive in it. Exhale. This is childish thinking, when it seems that everything is fucked up. But now a minute has passed, and no one has died. Allow yourself to stop, get stuck and lie down for a day or two. You will not become severely destitute, unemployed, and unsuccessful. But this time is needed to restore the resource.
Instead, it is better to read books, articles, and annotations. It develops intellectually and emotionally. The books also contain answers to many questions and support.
4. Play sports and any physical activity. Any movement is vital energy, hormones. Running, sex, swimming, yoga, long city walks, all options are great.
5. Meet more often with friends and people, who are ready to warm with their presence and warmth. Talk, discuss what bothers you. In the process of expressing thoughts and feelings to another person, it becomes easier and calmer. Help people in the same way. Just passers-by. Do good things that make you feel useful and recognized.
6. Keep your personal diary of feelings and experiences. ZWrite there everything that happens to you, what bothers you, whom you love or hate. Share your challenges and how you deal with them.
Start your diary of values - at the end of the day, write down in it what was important for the day you did, you learned. Praise yourself.
Write down your plans, desires, goals and objectives. Even if you have a minimal goal for tomorrow, in the morning it will make sense for you to get out of bed and do something useful.
7. Find yourself a psychologistthat you like. Which will be "YOUR". Investing money in your development and research, peace of mind and freedom - the result is priceless. A person heals another person with presence and attention. By the way, I invite you to my place)
8. Meditate, slow down, breathe. Travel, leave the city even for a couple of days, change the location, be impressed by the new one.
9. Additional bonus - donate blood for hormone serotonin … It affects the emotional background, mood, sleep, sexuality. Often in autumn / winter, in a depressive or stressful state, it is not enough in the body.
If you feel a shortage, we skip to iherb and buy 5-HTP or others. In addition, vitamins B12 and B6, vitamin C, products containing magnesium and tryptophan.
You are alive, and then everything will be different, but you can handle it. I hug.
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