Decision Is Made

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Throughout your extraordinary life, in a 24 by 7 mode, you are faced with a choice between "yes" and "no": go to this job / study or quit the boring occupation altogether; wear this suit or something else; live with this person or be alone. It is always necessary to make a choice in order to continue to participate in the game under the name, and then you yourself (a) really choose under which one. Sometimes there is a freeze - a dead end, in other words. Such dead ends will seem to someone, an infinite number and they will be perceived as a blow on the leg of the sofa with a thumb: unexpectedly, it hurts, it hurts to tears, and as a rule the sofa will be to blame. And someone will greet them with gratitude and calmness.

Max Frye expressed a very precise thought: “When you are faced with a choice, flip a coin. This will not give the right answer, but the moment the coin is in the air, you already know what you are hoping for. " The difficulty begins from the very moment when the tossed coin with the answers to "yes" and "no" stands on the edge.

What leads to the desire to flip that very coin. The first reason is the loss of value to what is already there: a person, a way of life, a goal, a suit, a job … followed by a desire to try something else to experience new feelings. The second reason - you lied to yourself at the time of making a decision and received a diploma, because you need to, got married contrary to the precepts of your parents, reached a high position to prove that you are worth something and, as a result, disgust from that, what do you have, and as a bonus - a question mark hanging in the air with the words "what is mine and who am I?"

So making a decision is a small goal, it is a kind of selection from the available variations or the creation of new options.

The need to make a decision comes from the moment the goal is born, and the goal is to satisfy the need that has arisen.

It is not difficult to act if you understand what goal you are pursuing, what needs you satisfy and with what feelings.

GOALS

So, the first thing that is important for making a decision is to determine your needs (everything that is important and relevant to you now). The second is to weigh and consider whether this goal will be relevant for you 20 years later, whether it will make you happy and whether it will cause a smile on your deathbed, and possibly give fruit to descendants or humanity. Third, and very important, check your feelings at the moment of making a choice, do not make it when you are sick, do not make a decision out of despair or despair. If you feel empty, anxious, somehow uncomfortable, step back and have some tea, do something else, for example: wash the dishes, clean the house, go to a comfortable place, get out of social networks, take a day off and go into nature. Any decision made in a state of apathy will not bring anything energetically higher than the original state.

Technical part. If you are filled with a feeling of happiness, peace, joy, then it's time to start:

1. Write on a sheet of paper in a column everything that you want to achieve, overcome, acquire, change for the coming year.

2. When the list is ready, select 1-3 important items, but no more. otherwise, you will stretch between desires as on a rack, which will lead to another depreciation and loss of meaning.

3. Ask people who are authoritative for you for their opinion (even if it is aunt Natasha, a cleaner, but she has brought up all her three - seven children well). But remember - their opinions can be like the air blowing up the coals in the fire of your ideas that has not yet flared up, or the rain…. The right decision would be to contact a specialist / coach to fully test your goal for survivability and make a choice!

4. Do not delay - go for it! Otherwise, your goal will drain all the juices of life from you and you will turn into a lazy set of chromosomes.