2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Quite recently, I spent two weeks at a master class by Veronika Ilyina “Connecting with the resources of the clan”.
For all of us (20 constellators), the master class turned out to be difficult, energy-consuming and very frank.
As if making arrangements or techniques for yourself, you always meet with the family, with ancestors, with seminal secrets, forgotten crimes, and most importantly with the pain that is borne and borne by generations. And many, looking at this pain, console themselves with the hope of a miracle or secretly dream of another family or parents to make things easier and simpler.
But it is impossible to escape from the clan. Especially when it is revealed how many resources for success, money, health, relationships, our business is in store for us.
I know how many worry about their ancestors, seek to hide from the world, in their opinion, shameful and dirty prostitutes, snitches and scum! But she couldn't hide it in a sack.
I also know how many people deeply experience the difficult fate of their ancestors, someone's grief, madness, loss of children, hunger or poverty, deception or betrayal. For a long time they are horrified at the injustice that happened 100-200 years ago, they even want revenge.
And now all this lives in us as an explosive mixture. And at the level of the soul, in the name of great love, many abandon their meanings, tasks, their happiness, just to save someone who has died long ago and now does not need anything at all. Someone who forever remained on the battlefield or in the gas chamber, or nailed to the gate of a house or hanged in a barn.
We love all our ancestors so much that even after centuries we repeat their destinies, biography, suffering and loss. As instinctives, we walk in the same circle - forbidding ourselves to rejoice, enjoy and live. Because they suffered, they lost, they buried, they did not come true. And now we cannot give ourselves the right to live our own lives and in our own way.
The dead hold the living by the feet
This was still known in Ancient Rome.
Our master Veronica arranged the work in such a way that for two weeks something extraordinary and scary at the same time was revealed to us. The excluded and new knowledge, new understanding was built into the system.
Everyone had their own resource, exactly the one with which they had access to work. Everything has a deadline - someone worked with relationships, someone with money or their own business. I had a deadline and access to work with success.
We made a psychogenogram, researched loyalty, did diagnostics and exercises.
Each unpacked something unique about its kind - resource ancestors or excluded resource. To complete the tasks, you had to collect information that turned everything upside down! We all live in family fields, where there is a lot of strength, resilience, courage, the ability to withstand adversity, social cataclysms, world wars, find our own way and be realized in spite of everything.
All our ancestors had the strength to withstand their fate, no matter how painful and terrible it might seem to us now. And this means that each of us also has the strength to withstand difficulties and hardships, illnesses and losses, and at the same time open up and develop in our self-realization and personal work with the inner world.
After all, everything external always reflects the internal.
If our ancestors coped with their fate, then we also have such a gift.
And all the complaints - "I can't, I can't do it, everyone bothers me, I live in the wrong country and under the wrong president, my parents are bastards, they didn't love me in my childhood, they didn't give me anything in my childhood" - that's all excuses that help maintain pain in the system.
They help not to explore and not comprehend your inner world, the world of true desires and needs. Don't go your own way.
Excuses that help you to come to terms with suffering and sitting on the fifth point.
Excuses that help justify that life time is draining away.
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