2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
One client once said in a session that the most difficult thing in communicating with a person is to see his real face. Not the one that he substitutes under the front camera to check in with you in the recently opened restaurant on social networks. And not the one he used to wear every day, honing the once created image to the desired ideal.
But the person who manifests itself at the moment of choosing a further path and one's own feeling of comfort and carelessness. For example, when it comes to work. And the choice is like this: he (and slightly embellish, thicken the colors, but get out of the water) or you (and tell the truth as it is, putting yourself in jeopardy). At such a moment, you may suddenly find yourself without a friend, to whom you calmly called long after midnight for help and to whom you always held out your hand when the next collapse overtook him. Simply because the instinct for a better life is stronger than some kind of morality that cannot be touched and poured into the tank.
Or so, for example. A man speaks loudly and to the sounds of universal admiring approval of his love for his wife and three children and how important it is to meet his soul mate. But he reveals his true face when, seizing a convenient moment, he invites the new assistant to be his mistress, because he cannot leave the children, but he has an incredible passion and love for her, which he has been waiting for all his life. And no, he does not speak ill of his wife and does not consider children a burden, just why not get something "that will please both of us."
It may be the face of a person who, finding himself in your apartment in one of the difficult periods of his own life, without frowning, pours verbal feces on you and everything connected with you, instead of gratitude experiencing “No, but what?”. Because the storm has passed, calm is visible on the horizon and you, with your love for people, are no longer needed.
It can be a young girl whom you supported when moving from another city, introducing her interests to such desirable and hard-to-reach people of her interests. You went to the movies with her, drank delicious coffee and set up the weekend to take pictures of her sincere face while walking on the sea, enjoying her spontaneity and joyful laughter. And I did not know that the true face was manifested at the moment when she told her next friend how tired she was of your eternal philosophical reflections and reasons to complain about any trifle. But it is not her fault that she cannot do without your support in the still new city.
Yes, people often choose a path different from yours, often choosing where it is quieter and less hassle, and not where it is more honest, but more winding. Most importantly, when you see another "real face" - do not despair and do not cry, no matter how suddenly it hurts. Stay on course and trust your own feelings. Because they are the compass that helps you stay on track. Stay true to your path. Then, having received another surprise from the new face of a loved one, you will know that you did not participate in this masquerade and was true to yourself. And this is more expensive than a full tank.
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