2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If earlier your sex life with your partner was satisfying, she willingly had sex with you and even at some times showed the initiative, experienced orgasms, could flirt, showed b Ogreater openness in communication, now everything has changed: yes, she is still a good housewife and mother to your children, but personally she began to behave more coldly, aloof with you, she either has sex without enthusiasm, or tries to avoid it under various pretexts "hurts head "," tired ", etc.
2. think that in this way a woman is manipulating, trying to punish, to get what she wants; 3. begin to show hyper control and increased attention, even "stickiness" in relation to the woman; 4. begin to take offense in response, manipulate, threaten with treason, divorce, issue ultimatums, etc.
This is the egocentric attitude of a child who manipulatively tries to get the love of a symbolic mother.
The man begins to act based on the motives of the woman's dislike and rejection, thereby only exacerbating the problem.
If it was about the manipulation of sex by a woman, then her sexual activity would return immediately after receiving what she wanted.
If she had a constant lover, you would soon find out about this too (refusal to have sex is not yet a sign of cheating, there are many other more reliable signs, especially if you live together for a long time).
But the psychological problems of the companion for some reason are rarely taken into account by men
Psychogenic frigidity, headaches before sex, vaginismus and other physiological manifestations are neurotic in nature. The internal conflict is somatized, it takes on a bodily form.
This problem needs to be resolved in a steam room, conjugal psychotherapy, possibly with the participation of a doctor. In some severe somatized cases, medications (antidepressants, etc.) may be required.
Often, disharmony in relationships, stress in a woman's life related to health, problems with children, work troubles directly affect psychosomatics, including sexual regulation.
One woman constantly received devaluating messages from her husband, as a result of which the libido towards him began to fade.
Another woman found that 90% of the time she spends with herself, and in the remaining 10% she and her partner discuss only household, financial issues and watch the series before going to bed. The partner is closed on himself, uncommunicative, does not accept her areas of interest.
There was a case in practice when a woman was in a subdepressive state due to problems with the development of a child, and during this period she lost interest in sex.
Also, the results of the study of role expectations often reveal significant differences in the values of both partners. For a man, for example, the sexual and economic side is more significant, for a woman - the emotional climate, social realization.
Therefore, before blaming your companion, try to show her more patience, empathy, support, interest in her personality, visit a family psychologist. This will help in a shorter time to understand the true reasons for the partner's behavior and resolve the overdue conflict.
* Artist: Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec.
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