2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
On the forum, you can often read about the negative experience of a person's attempt to undergo personal psychotherapy. The first bad experience is sometimes the last. a client who is repeatedly traumatized by the therapist may hesitate to re-disclose.
In my opinion, the therapy that gives a person a resource, self-confidence is effective, when the therapy focuses on the person's strengths and actualizes his best qualities, when a person feels the support from the therapist that he never received from his loved ones.
This can be understood only by visiting the client's place yourself.
A therapist from God can be called a humane, empathic person who loves people and awakens the best in the client with his love.
Psychoanalyst Alfred Adler said something like the following: when a person comes to see me, I try to understand not how much sick person there is, but how much healthy person there is.
A therapist with a God complex has a fear that the client will begin to devalue him as a specialist, because inside he understands his limitations, but does not accept them. Such resistance to accepting one's limitations and fear of devaluation creates a need to defend against the client. This is manifested in the refusal of the client without clear explanations of the reasons, in the stigmatization of the client, instilling in him the idea of his inadequacy, again, without any significant arguments based on suggestibility, reduced criticism of the client and a general suppressed mood background. The defensive therapist cannot give the person the acceptance he needs.
In such a situation, the therapist's neglect, his emphasis on the negative aspects of the client's personality, a sharp rejection of him, deprivation of his resource in the form of hope for a positive outcome of therapy lead to repeated traumatization of the person who applied for professional help.
I liked one quote:
"A person is never good or bad, depending only on what type of nervous activity he has. People are simply different, but a person is bad or good is a category of situational assessment of his actions by others, which depends entirely on the moral and ethical attitudes of society (specific individual), the prevailing cultural and historical values of a particular population group. Outside these conditions, a person is what he is, and he (with the exception of gross pathology) has no intentions to do evil to other people. interests, which justifies his bad actions and statements, painfully and negatively perceiving criticism in his address. The more selfish a person acts, the more often and more he risks infringing on the interests of other people."
If the client made an attempt to devalue the therapist, then this does not always mean that he is a narcissist. A therapist with a God complex cannot allow the thought that in this way, albeit not entirely constructive, the client tried to protect his self-esteem, to protect himself from devaluation by the therapist in the first place. But a therapist with a God complex sees in the defending person a threat to his ego and seeks to get rid of it like a foreign body in his skin, instead of realizing, "what did I do wrong, how did I hurt the client?"
It turns out that every person trying to defend himself is inconvenient. Likewise, the client becomes objectionable when his selfish interests conflict with the interests of the therapist.
But still. I wrote this article not in order to devalue psychotherapy and psychotherapists / psychologists (none of us is immune from mistakes, and I learn not to make them), but in order to make it clear that in therapy it is right in the client's place - to be a little selfish and not devalue your self-esteem. You pay the therapist money and should not tolerate humiliation, the attitude that you do not like.
Of course, there are many good psychotherapists in the world, you just need to find your own.
Every psychotherapist needs to understand and remember that if the picture of a person's "I" is reduced to the image of "bad" or "worthless", then such experiences can lead to auto-aggression, suicidal tendencies.
The ethics of psychotherapy stipulates that therapy should serve the interests of the client and not harm him.
Otherwise, the client's trust in the therapist will not be justified or will be completely undermined, and the psychology itself will be discredited in the eyes of people.
One involuntarily recalls the lines from the diary of young Anne Frank - a victim of the fascist genocide, who died in one of the concentration camps during the Second World War. The tragedy of her life is difficult to exaggerate. And yet she wrote: "In spite of everything, I still believe that people are really kind at heart."
Another article on this topic:
"About those who love to be on top."
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