2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In order to be a real Jewish mother, you do not need to belong to the chosen people at all and you do not even need to have children. You can be an Irish hairdresser, a Wall Street broker, or a Swedish cashier.
A real Jewish mother lives for the sake of her children. Let's agree right away that if she has no children, she will find someone to live for, because living her own life or God forbid for her pleasure is completely unacceptable for her.
She does not get enough sleep, does not finish eating, she is exhausted at work, and then at home. It doesn't matter how exhausting she is - she brushes the baseboards with a toothbrush, prepares a separate breakfast for each, or checks every letter of her homework - she works hard for the sake of loved ones. And loved ones should not forget about it.
Being a real Jewish mom is a high art. If you master it, then your life will become the envy of friends and girlfriends. If you are not diligent enough in training, you with your own hands will bring closer that rainy day when the child realizes that he can do without you.
It is important for anyone who wants to become a Jewish mother with a capital "E" to understand that the main feeling that you should evoke in your loved ones is guilt. There is a saying "Beat the child every day. Even if you do not know what he was guilty of, he probably knows." A Jewish mother uses a different wisdom: "Sigh often with suffering. If you do not know what your relatives are to blame for you, they know for sure."
In order for the feeling of guilt to take root in the soul of your children and relatives, it is first of all necessary to learn the basic technique of suffering. It's not that easy, but I'm sure you can handle it. Let's start with the facial expression. Mournfully purse your lips and at the same time lower the corners of your mouth downward, pull your eyebrows into a "house" so that wrinkles lie between them. Happened? Very well. Now look. All the sorrows of the world, laid on your shoulders by fate, should be reflected in your eyes. You can lower your eyes "down" - "I am a modest worker and no matter how much I have to endure" or erect "grief" - "God, only you see how I suffer."
Practice in front of a mirror. A few days of hard training and any professional mourner will envy you. If someone close to you catches you doing these exercises and asks "Mom! What happened ?!" Answer with buried anguish: "Nothing. It's all right. I'm sure it will soon pass."
With this inimitable expression on your face, you can now safely give your son the famous two ties, and then ask "Did you like the second one?" sigh so that the daughter could hear "When you get married, I can finally die in peace." Actually, you don't have to say anything else at all. Your every breath will bind those close to you with a sense of guilt, like a rope.
Oh, how my grandmother's mournfully pursed lips made me angry and her "of course, all times are the same for you." What kind of "times" were they? But any cold would certainly turn into a tragedy, and the "grazing" of our granddaughters at the dacha into an unbearable sacrifice. All this with a martyr's face and constant stories about the caring and attentive children of Maria Alexandrovna or Tsilya Yulievna. Never a word in simplicity, no direct reproaches. She adored us, but her parents had to constantly realize what she was sacrificing for us, and feel guilty. Alas.
Thank you grandma. Because today I am perfectly able to recognize "Jewish mothers" and I have a good immunity to them. And when I suddenly catch myself on these intonations of the small-town Drama Queen, I start laughing and say to myself, "Turn off Granny Sarah!"
But all the same, these intonations no-no, yes pop up. This ineradicable "Jewish mother" comes from somewhere in me. And those around them often sin. Moreover, not only people of my generation or older, but also much younger. It's amazing that even children can learn these "skills" with ease.
I wonder if you feel the features of a "Jewish mother" in yourself? And why do you think we need it?
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