2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Shame for oneself is probably familiar to many.
Ashamed
- talk about yourself
- tell your opinion
- have a different point of view
-to be different
- think differently
- to say what many do not like
- do what others disapprove of
- say no
- honestly say “I don’t want to”. "I do not like"
All these "shames" can be combined into one - it is a shame to be yourself. I am ashamed of my qualities, my body, laughter, desires, fears, dreams, and some are even ashamed of their goals. A person sinks into this toxic feeling and it slowly eats away at him.
Many choose to lie to themselves, pretend, suppress their true feelings, totally control themselves, and as a result, there is a lot of suffering in life, not success, disappointment, unfulfilled.
Such a person runs the risk of becoming seriously ill simply due to the fact that he is not able to be himself and show his true qualities in society.
Shame is transformed into a strictly guarded border, so that nothing "of their own" will seep out.
Where does it all come from?
Yes, from childhood. Parents, relatives, educators, teachers - they shamed, disgraced, ridiculed, condemned, humiliated, devalued, compared. And the little man made the simplest decision - to remove the true part from himself out of sight out of mind. The process of self-exclusion, self-ignorance, self-extrusion of oneself from oneself began. Can you imagine how much effort was applied! That, having become an adult, a person has generally lost contact with himself, has ceased to understand himself and feel what he wants, wants, where he is in life, what he likes, what his talents are.
The mask "I am what you want" has grown to his personality. It has become a subpersonality, that is, a part of the inner world, moreover, the mask already controls the person himself, subordinates himself and makes him dependent.
Because it has become a habit to be ashamed of oneself, “the norm of life”. And if such a person wants success, to be noticed, it is important for him to go through the fear of manifesting in society.
What does it mean?
Learn to open up your desires, intentions, risk showing your qualities, and perhaps begin to know yourself. To be ourselves is a kind of path of the soul that we go through in order to meet ourselves - true, authentic, as nature was born and conceived through our opinion or refusal to another or pleasure or desire to do in our own way.
Want to stop comparing yourself with others! The first step to yourself.
Do you compare yourself to others?
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