2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Initially, interest in popular psychosomatics was caused precisely by the desire to reduce neurotic anxiety, which in one way or another accompanies any psychosomatic disorders and diseases. In the form of an article, a table or a book, she "diagnoses" quickly, gives a ready-made reason, and advice on how to fix everything. At the same time, the further, the more it becomes obvious that the "diagnosis" is often wrong, the ready reason is inappropriate, and the advice is ineffective or simply inapplicable in practice. And if at first we were relieved when, by a magical wave of the page, "everyone found out about themselves," then afterwards we got frustration and even greater anxiety, because if "everyone found out and could not do anything about it, then what will happen now !?".
This note can be a good helper (one of the elements) for those who understand that psychosomatics is a complex science, and knowledge, time, helpers and a willingness to work on oneself are needed to analyze and identify the real causes. In my practice, there were different cases of treatment: both disorders and diseases, situational problems and chronic, mild and incurable, etc. their psychological reasons for the onset of this or that disease (or rather a symptom, because not always with pronounced sensations of physical ailment, we really have some kind of disease). Therefore, in a sense, it is universal, and it is important to listen to yourself when considering each of the issues, even if it seems that it has nothing to do with you.
Thematic questionnaire identifying the main benefits of psychosomatic disorders and diseases *
Below are a number of statements, each of which is given two blocks of assessment. I block - affects the reasons that could contribute to the emergence "symptom" (disease or disorder), II block - affects the reasons that can hold disease (when we cannot get rid of it in any way). After reading the statement, you are invited to think how it relates to your real life, your character and the current situation, and then assess the degree of presence of such a belief, where 10 points is definitely about me, and 0 - it has nothing to do with me.
1. In fact, my illness helps me to get away from an unpleasant situation.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
2. My illness helps me to delay making a decision or to shift the decision to other people
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
3. My illness helps not to communicate and not interact with specific people
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
4. Due to my illness, I receive compensation or benefits from the state, authorities, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
5. Finally, I can rest, sleep, not run anywhere, not in a hurry, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
6. During my illness, I began to see many things in my life differently, changed my attitudes, goals, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
7. My illness helps me to make sure that everyone would leave me alone, at least for a while.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
8. I have a serious illness, people respect me for coping with it so courageously, they set me up as an example
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
9. My illness helps me to keep the right person near (whom?) Or to keep my family
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
10-a. Thanks to illness, I can not adjust myself to the standards of society and not meet other people's expectations
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
10-b. Due to illness, I can not follow the rules, do whatever I want, and I will get nothing for it.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
11. When I get sick, they finally "notice" me, listen to my opinion, fulfill my wishes
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
12. Thanks to my illness, I saw the meaning in life, I began to value life and I want to live.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
13. My illness helps me not to do a specific job (what?), Assignments, pass exams, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
14. When I get sick, I feel more attention, support, care and love of those around me.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
15. The disease gave me new acquaintances, communication, support of understanding people, new friends
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
16. Illness helps me to say "no", I can more confidently refuse other people referring to my condition
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
17. The disease has filled the void in my life, I have a regime and a schedule, I go to the doctors, get examined, keep track of news around my disease, events, trips, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
18. Illness helps me to change, become a new person, take care of myself, listen more to my body, appreciate it, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
19. This disease was in my loved one, who died. Thanks to her, I feel a connection with him, remember and understand him more.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
20. This disease we have hereditary, sooner or later it would still manifest itself
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
21. Thanks to illness, I can refuse "dangerous" activities: travel, travel, flights, work with dangerous elements, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
22. My illness helps me explain to others why I have not achieved anything in life (have not achieved success in my career, have not got a good job, have not started a family, have no friends, etc.)
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
23. My illness prompted me to write a will, to think about how, what and to whom to leave behind, what I have, what I have achieved, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
24. Illness helps me not to match my sex role or social functions
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
25. My illness is like a respite, in life I wear masks and play other people's roles for a long time. Illness gives me the opportunity to be myself for a while
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
26. Illness makes it possible not to think that I no longer have a resource, I have nowhere to draw ideas, inspiration, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
27. The disease helps me to stop in time, limit myself in business, contacts, entertainment, etc., it acts as a regulator
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
28. My illness helps me to establish a climate of respect, silence and tranquility in my family (to make sure that there are no scandals, disobedience, etc.)
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
29. When I receive treatment, I become more fun, I create, I am inspired and energized.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
30. In my memory there is a memory that poisons my whole life. Illness helps me to cope with it (not think about it or atone for my guilt)
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
31. When I am sick, I can finally allow myself to take up my hobby, myself and everything that brings me pleasure, without feeling guilty.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
32. Illness stimulates me to great achievements, to more earnings, movement, development, helps me not to stand still, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
33. When people find out what I am sick with, they immediately make concessions. Illness makes it easier for me to achieve what I want.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
34. In my illness, I look like an idol, only people of special circles have such a disease
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
35. My illness gives me the opportunity not to have close relationships, be friends with someone for a long time, live together, meet often, etc.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
36. I perceive my illness solely as a punishment, as karma, as a path, as a sign, as an atonement (emphasize the necessary)
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
37. Others are to blame for my illness - parents, relatives, boss, etc. I am waiting for them to understand this and atone for their guilt.
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
38. My illness makes me special, unique, not like everyone else
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
39. Illness is just an opportunity to shift attention from another sick or problematic relative to yourself
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
40. Deep down, I am glad that I fell ill with this, because Recently, life has gotten so much that there is no desire to fight it, I see no prospects
I - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10) II - (0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10)
The questions that gain the maximum number of points (above 6) help to reveal the big picture. Once you've identified how your illness is helping you, create a 10-point list of what you can do to get "it" in a different, more constructive way, without using the illness and the body. Map out the first steps for each item and set realistic timelines for completing them. If you are missing something, write down the ways how to get the missing one or who to contact for help.
Note that high scores for questions no. 8, 9, 10-b, 17, 19, 20, 22, 24, 25, 26, 27, 30, 36, 37 and 40 indicate an increased need to see a psychotherapist.
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* Thematic questionnaire for identifying the main advantages of psychosomatic disorders and diseases // Lobazova A. A. "Individual work with a psychologist". Informational methodological manual in the framework of the program of support and rehabilitation of cancer patients in the MC "Panacea 21st Century". Kharkov, 2008.
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