2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
At first I perceived the figure of the Witch extremely positively. As an independent, self-sufficient woman with great mental strength. And power. However, Chuck Spezzano notes the toxicity of the manifestation of her power, as well as her loneliness and deep unhappiness inside.
So, the Shadow "Witch". What are her joys and pains?
She has great psychic power. Dot. This is where the joys end and the pain begins.
How does she deal with her power? The options are:
- She does not know about her and, as a result, does not manage. Or she knows about power, feels, but denies it, does not accept it. As a result, power controls her, not she power. And often to the detriment. To yourself and others.
- She is familiar with her strength, knows how to control it (consciously or unconsciously), but uses it not for the good of herself and the world, but again to the detriment. For example, to gain power. And what is power to her? More on that later.
It would seem that she is independent and self-sufficient. But behind this independence is the inability to adapt in society, to be included in the world, to be at peace with the world. She does not love, hates people, seeks to separate from society, to fence herself off, to dig in her little world. But there is great pain behind this hatred. And fear. And loneliness. And a very deeply hidden desire to be with people.
Having once experienced rejection, rejection, humiliation, betrayal, the Witch decides to separate from the world. But at the same time, to take revenge on the evil cruel world, which treated her unjustly. Possessing good abilities, she does not realize them, but uses them to mock people. For example, sarcasm and arrogance as a mild form of this. But there is pain behind it all.
The witch strives for power. To get revenge. But at the same time, in order to keep control, not to let her close to you, in order to prevent a repetition of the wound that people once inflicted on her.
Social protest and the power of the Witch can be both direct, directed directly against people, and indirect, directed to a greater extent against oneself - this is such revenge through one's own destruction.
Household example of the manifestation of the Witch in the MF relationship. A very intelligent woman who, in a relationship with her husband, does one of these:
- feels his intellectual superiority and openly mocks her husband, making sarcastic jokes;
- feels his intellectual superiority and secretly manipulates her husband;
- demonstratively denies his intellectual abilities and does not realize them, mocks himself;
- unconsciously denies his intellectual abilities, just sits with a gray mouse, not realizing himself, the family collapses.
Another example. A woman feels well what a man needs. Gives it to him. But in response, he does not take anything, keeps his distance. So, on the one hand, she rises above him and holds power. On the other hand, it does not allow itself to come near, preserving its "independence", protecting its wounded soul from repeated injury.
As well as the Curmudgeon - the Witch "squeezes" herself. He "squeezes" himself and his abilities from the world.
It cannot be fully realized, since the realization is associated with an exchange with the world, and the Witch avoids the world. And he does not recognize his abilities and does not realize. And if it does, then with dubious benefit - as an instrument of revenge. For example, a very beautiful woman who knows how to charm uses her "charms" to lure men, and then "dynamite" them with shame and pain. She has a reason for this - most likely, sex abuse in history. But such behavior does not bring happiness in the first place to herself.
In a partnership, she could give a lot to her partner. "Behind every great husband is a great woman." (c) English proverb. It could be about her. But she "castrates" her partner. Or it simply suppresses its strength, which leads to increased tension and, as a result, to epic scandals and depletion of resources.
What does the Witch need?
Learn to join the world and adapt in the world along with your abilities, to show your strength in an environmentally friendly way. Learn to build relationships on an equal footing, without manipulation and BDSM. But for this, you first need to live a lot, a lot of pain, resentment, bitterness of rejection and betrayal, loneliness, fear and hatred. And for this - to build your own support system and learn to build healthy boundaries. And another large layer of work is the topic of value and self-esteem, recognition of one's abilities with dignity. Often also - the topic of sexuality.
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