JUST LEARNING TO WAIT

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

People like me lack patience. When it's time for a quantum leap, you want everything to happen instantly. But it should be understood that the jump is preceded by the accumulation of a certain critical mass of potential - and this does not happen at the snap of your fingers. People who are greedy for life want to overcome existential crises (they are also points of growth) in one sitting. Rrrraz - and it's all over. That's all, and you were afraid, only the skirt was wrinkled.

Yes Yes. We scattered. It is high time for someone to occupy an economic niche for the production of lip-rolling machines. Whether we like it or not, even the most rapid growth still takes time. And, the more serious the growth - the more time.

We set goals for ourselves in personal or impersonal growth, we use certain practices and techniques, and often we do not have enough patience to get to the end. How often people give up literally a minute before they win. Today I learned that every 40 seconds in the world, 1 person kills himself. EVERY 40 SECONDS. People who gave up. Who couldn't bear their pain Many of them did not even want to want to change something. But surely there are many who did a lot and did not wait for the result. Sometimes we do the wrong thing for a long time before we find the door to enter. And sometimes, even when we are doing exactly what is needed, we just need to wait as long as necessary. I read somewhere that bamboo does not appear above the ground for a very long time, and you just need to water and wait, wait and water. For a long time you do not see any results, after a long sitting underground, shoots grow by only 50 cm in six months, but then it grows at a record speed - 10-15 cm per day, and some species grow by 120 cm per day!

In well-ventilated metro stations, it can be difficult to get out of the glass doors, because the wind is so strong that it practically does not allow you to push the door forward, especially if you are a fragile girl. And if you start to rush and try to open the door by force, then you will spend much more time fighting the door than if you wait a few seconds for the wind to open inward by itself, and you can simply slip into the free space. In life, you can also learn to feel at what moment the situation unfolds for you in such a way that you simply slip through the door that opened itself - instead of fighting with it.

Bert Hellinger says that you can only overcome the crisis at the very peak, just as it makes sense to shoot at the enemy only when he approached quickly enough - otherwise you will waste all the ammunition.

I know a number of people who are so insatiably hungry for change that they attend all the trainings and seminars that they only come across - like a bulimia-obsessed person stuffing everything that is not nailed into his mouth. The result is usually the same as in bulimia - you twist, over time, you burn your esophagus and ruin your teeth with hydrochloric acid. Of course, trainings and seminars (again, selectively) can be beneficial - provided that healthy measures are taken and when you give yourself time to digest new information. You let the body build new neural connections, after all. You allow yourself to adapt to the new paradigm. On the path of development, it is just as dangerous to run at a gallop as it is not to move at all. Lack of development leads to inevitable degradation, but too rapid development is spiritual oncology. Muscles swing, when you lift the dumbbell, then lower it. The alternation of activity and rest, pauses - that's all - really necessary.

And also, as a rule, this same absent sense of proportion is reborn into harsh missionary work - when by hook or by crook you turn to your side of strength everything that has the misfortune to approach you. In Buddhism, situations when you are asked to explain the dharma, but you do not, and when you are not asked, but you still explain, are considered equally difficult impressions for the mind. Expressing your opinion when not asked about it, giving unsolicited advice is the flip side of theft. Theft is when you take what you were not given, and imposition is when you give what you did not ask for. You can also say that in this way you steal from a person the right to decide for himself what he wants to know right now, and what information is superfluous for him. When you try to do something for a person without asking for help, you steal his right to cope on his own, take away his strength and his potential for development. I'm sorry, but I've done too much myself, and I know how it can ruin a relationship.

When it is very itchy to say something to someone before being asked, this is a rejection of reality. You cannot agree with the current state of affairs. Don't let things just be what they are. The same gives rise to supersonic "personal growth" - when your ideas are far ahead of the ability of the mind and body to adapt to change. The surest cure for such a crazy run in soap and white foam at the mouth is resignation to reality. Everything is already good enough. Life is a flexible and malleable constructor, and reality can be changed as you like to your taste - only gently, with love and without hurrying anywhere.