2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If only you knew from what rubbish articles grow:) Strange people constantly knock on me. True, it has not yet reached the naked men. And the Nigerian prince did not leave me an inheritance (apparently, he is still alive). But I have a lot of people who want to get to know each other, tell about themselves, and at the same time get a free consultation.
Someone I help, someone I send to the address, someone silently banya. But lately, in my personal account, there is just an invasion of American men. Moreover, not all of the photoshopped handsome generals from typical scams, but quite ordinary respectable citizens. Some even have a bald spot and a belly, which looks quite plausible. So these individuals, struck by my unearthly beauty, passionately desire to create a family with a good woman. They even have an inferior profile, but they do. And all would be fine, but the newly-made suitors write exclusively in Russian. As soon as you switch to English, you get lost, confuse words and grammar, and generally speak suspiciously in the style of a google translator.
In general, I just thought about it and decided to compile a small guide for those who, unlike me, are interested in online dating. Suddenly, among the fakes, there really was someone normal. Then, as they say, advice and love:)
If a "man with the aim of creating a family" knocks on your friend:
- See the profile and the date of registration in the social network. If the profile is empty, there are no friends, and instead of a photo of a cactus, most likely this is not your option. It also happens the other way around, when there are a lot of friends, but these are exclusively porn beauties and black football players. I suppose this is also not what you are looking for.
- Pay attention to the content. If a person in the profile does not have a single live post or his own thoughts, this is a reason to think.
- If a person comes to your page, he must have a goal. In common phishing schemes, this is your money. As soon as it comes to sick parents and money for study, feel free to send the hero to the ban. Why do you need a virtual parasite?
- Maintain a sense of reality. Even if you are sooooo hungry for communication and attention, even if you really like your new acquaintance, even if you still believe in fairy tales, remember the fable about the crow and the fox. Perhaps the hero of your virtual novel is attracted by “not your feathers and your sock, and certainly not your angelic voice,” especially if you don’t have one.
- If your new friend introduces himself as a foreigner, try switching to his native language. This is not always possible, but in my case it helps a lot.
- Tell less and ask more. Ask him more about the country, city and life in it. If a person begins to pour information from Wikipedia, this is a reason to be wary. Too many details or, conversely, vague wording is also missing. As a rule, pseudo-suitors have a certain well-thought-out legend. Step aside and the system crashes. Ask unexpected questions, constantly change topics, ask for as much specificity as possible. From the reaction, you can easily understand whether you are dealing with a "living" person or with a scripted "Nigerian prince".
- Ask to chat on Skype, but do not rush to turn on your own camera. First, look at the interlocutor, at the surroundings, at the room, at the angle of the camera, etc. If you can only see the face, or the interlocutor's camera mysteriously broke down, there is a reason to be wary. If he sits in an empty room, or vice versa, communicates with you only from the street, this information will help you form an opinion about what is happening. Your task is to determine as accurately as possible who or what you have encountered - preferably BEFORE you trust a new acquaintance. By the way, if a person communicates with you on Skype, ask him to show you around. If, instead of Sears Towers, you see a general store or signs in Chinese, that will clarify a lot.
If you nevertheless entered into correspondence with a potential "groom", and you started a virtual relationship, follow the basic safety rules:
- do not give out personal information, - do not "check in" in every cafe, leaving a trace in social networks
- do not post photos of children - you have no idea who the real target of a potential scammer is, - brag about your well-being less
- and certainly NEVER send your intimate photos and videos. You won't believe how many clients I have who are pulling their hair out because of their own stupidity.
Remember, caution is essential in today's virtual world. Don't take strangers at their word. Yes, it sounds cynical, but you have no idea who is actually hiding behind the nickname on social media. These precautions may one day save your life.
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