2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What is psychological satiety? What is the philosophy of excess and scarcity talking about? How to turn hunger into satiety and deficit into excess?
When it comes to the philosophy of scarcity, it means that inside a person, relatively speaking, there is no organ that is responsible for satisfaction. When, for example, a woman who considers herself unclaimed by men receives a compliment that she is beautiful, these words pass her by. The tragedy of the situation is that no matter how many compliments, recognition and satisfaction she receives, she will never be full. This is hunger and the philosophy of scarcity.
The philosophy of scarcity is always built on the feeling that resources are scarce. In the outside world there may be a huge number of them, but satisfaction does not come. People with this philosophy live in the feeling that something else needs to be done in order to get even more. Thus, most families who seek therapy in a state of crisis, 80-90 percent are in the same situation - something apart from each other. require. One, for example, wants love and recognition, and the other - tenderness and care. Then the task is to demand from the other what he himself lacks. And now two people are sitting hungry, negotiating with each other, setting conditions and ultimatums. It's touching, sad and without options.
As long as one of the partners is waiting for the other to give what he lacks, and he then thinks about giving something in return, nothing happens.
This is a dead end.
There is an idea that the amount of resources in the world is limited, and the task is to get them, keep them in yourself and only then share them with someone else. In theory, this is true. But this is true, perhaps learned in childhood. After all, a person who from childhood has not received love and has not nourished itself on it, is not able to give this love.
In adulthood, its own truth. It lies in the fact that you can go from the philosophy of scarcity to the philosophy of excess.
This can be done by realizing a simple thing - all resources are inside … Magic happens when you go from hunger to a state of excess, finding inside what you want to share. When the question is not “how can I get what I want from a partner”, but “what I would like to say or give to my partner”.
The moment you begin to love the other for yourself, you will find that the amount of energy in your life increases. The more you spend for yourself, the more you get. But here it is important to understand what exactly you are doing. If you're doing charity work to make other unhappy people happier, it won't work. Doing for yourself is doing charity work, because you personally enjoy watching how happiness in life becomes more.
An even more radical example is parental.
Mothers often love their children for the well-being of their children. Parents often give their children their best, while they themselves are waiting for some better future in order to eat, for example, a delicious cake, which now only goes to children. This is a disservice. Children then cease to be satisfied. All the cakes given by the parents are in transit with the child.
Healthy parents who also want cakes are important for the formation of a healthy child. Who generally want something for themselves, and not for the child.
The best mother is happy.
When a mother hires an assistant or nanny for the child, it is good. Because the mother, in this case, ceases to be a victim. The story of Danko, who ripped out his heart to light the world with it, distorts the relationships of other people. Heroic acts are justified in other situations. In the modern world, heroism is not in demand. Demanded contractual, honest, good relations, in which all participants are comfortable. And also satiety and excess are in demand, which you want to share.
It is important to be aware of what you would like to give to the world. What would you like to share with people. What do you have that would be useful to other people. What you have so much that it is impossible to keep within yourself.
If you want to write poetry not for people to applaud, but because you want for yourself personally, or if you want to give love to other people, because you have this love, this is an excess. And such excess is selfish.
Be selfish. It works in all walks of life. There is nothing wrong with selfishness, and the philosophy of excess is the philosophy of rich people. And psychotherapy helps this develop. Come get rich and well-fed.
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