2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In spring, nature blooms, as if inspiring change, and many want to look better, lose weight, become slimmer. Weight is a result of our physical activity, food volume and taste preferences. There can be many psychological reasons for gaining and maintaining excess weight. For example, eating can help you deal with negative emotions. And this can become a favorite, and sometimes the only way of complacency. Completeness can metaphorically add "weight", meaning, if it is not enough. It can be a "layer" between a person and others, if it is difficult for him to determine the boundaries of his personality. Sometimes excess weight serves to "scare away" the opposite "sex, if there is a fear of relationships. These are not all the psychological reasons for being overweight. If you just "disassemble" them and do not change anything in the usual way of life, then the weight will remain the same. Awareness must necessarily be accompanied by real actions to change the lifestyle, eating behavior. Then the result is achievable.
Practical example
The client's permission to publish the case has been obtained. The name and individual events have been changed.
Tatiana is a beautiful, tall, successful woman. But, she is worried about being overweight.
- Before coming to your consultation, I collected information about the history of my family. The fate of my mother's great-grandmother responded very much. Her name was Anna, she starved to death during the evacuation. The war was going on, and she had two grandchildren in her care - my grandmother and her brother. There was very little food, and she gave everything to the kids. When Anna died, she, along with others who died of hunger, were simply carried off the train. Nobody knows where she was buried and was she buried at all? I recently learned this story, but all my life I had a fear that if I limit myself to food, I will die of hunger. And my great-grandmother, grandmother and mother were always very fat.
Tatiana and I made an individual constellation.
Tatyana marked with floor anchors: today's full, overweight, future herself - the progenitor Anna, who had built and died of hunger.
- How many kilograms do you consider overweight?
- Fourty. I want my weight to become seventy kilograms. - What feelings appear when you look into the eyes of your great-great-grandmother Anna? - I feel very sorry for her. And scary. From the role of Anna: - I didn't want to die. Everything happened so unexpectedly for me. I was only fifty years old, I really wanted to LIVE. - Can you accept that refusing to eat to save your grandchildren was your conscious choice? - No, I didn't choose anything, it happened.
Then those who had a similar fate, who died of hunger, were introduced into the constellation.
But, Anna was able to come to terms with her fate only after her parents were put behind her.
The parents supported their daughter, they said:
- We understand how scared you were, how difficult it is to refuse food, how much you have experienced. Well done, you made the right choice. Thanks to you, our family continues. Look at Tatiana, she is your great-great-granddaughter, she already has children of her own. Each of them has a part of you.
And Anna for the first time looked at Tatiana with love.
- Yes, I accept my choice and the price I paid for my descendants to live.
I add Tatyana's great-grandmother, grandmother and mother to the arrangement.
Great-grandmother says to Anna:
- Mom, thank you for saving my children. You don't even have a grave to which I could come and cry for you. But, as if I always carry you with me.
From the role of being overweight, a woman understands that forty "extra" kilograms is the weight of her grandmother at the time of her death. And all the women who were born after her: great-grandmother, grandmother, mother, Tatiana herself, as if in gratitude for her life, "wear the deceased."
Hearing this, Anna said to Tatyana:
- I accept my fate, and you accept it. It's enough for me that you just remember me. Let your figure be what you want.
But, in the place of slender Tatyana, the woman felt uncomfortable, as she stood aside, as if excluded from the generic system.
Slender Tatiana invited today's plump Tatiana to swap places. And she agreed.
The decision put between the figures of the two Tatyans - the present and the future, helped to understand what real actions must be taken in order to achieve harmony.
Realizing the reason for overeating, Tatyana reconsidered her attitude to nutrition. The fear of having a small amount of food disappeared, which allowed her to significantly change her eating behavior. Now Tatyana remembers her great-great-grandmother not with pity and fear, but with warmth and respect.
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