2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Checking whether we love ourselves is easy enough with the five Ps; acceptance, encouragement, gifts, rules, permission. Check if you have all five Ps in your life and how much:
Acceptance is acceptance of ourselves, our situations, our life, our appearance, our body, everything that we have. It is also about accepting other people, if we accept ourselves as we are, we accept other people too, without trying to improve or change them. It is easy to accept yourself light, healthy, vigorous, successful, beautiful, rich. Loving yourself poor, lonely, sick, and made a mistake is much more difficult. How do I feel about myself when I make a mistake? Can I accept myself as not perfect? How do I feel about myself in different situations? Self-acceptance does not depend on the situation - it is very important to accept yourself any and always. Accept that there are different states and situations, that we can make mistakes. “Yes, I was wrong - I learned a lesson from the situation. But I accept myself even with that. Hug yourself as the dearest person in your life. You don't have to be perfect all the time. There are different periods in life. You have the right to be different. An indicator of our acceptance of ourselves is the attitude of those around us. If others accept us as we are, then we accept ourselves.
Praise - It's important to praise yourself without taking your success for granted. Praise yourself for your success, notice your victories, even small ones. Very often we take our success for granted, focusing on what has not yet worked out. It turns out that we only see our own failures. Lack of self-praise usually suffers very successful people, perfectionists, striving for the ideal and spreading rot on themselves for the slightest mistake. Focus on success, praise yourself, pet, hug yourself. Praise yourself for even small successes and successes.
Gifts - Give yourself gifts. Gifts are very important and necessary for us, this is a vital necessity. If there is no man who can please you, or your man is not about gifts yet, please yourself. Set aside 5-10% of your income for yourself, for your gifts, even if money is difficult. Giving gifts to others is also very cool, but first of all you need to make gifts to yourself. Gifts increase our love for ourselves, expand our financial capacity. It is imperative to pamper yourself. You can start with what is available - time, walk. Write a list of gifts that you would like to receive - 100 items. The gifts on the list can be the smallest or the largest. Know your material desires. Be a fairy in your life - a godmother, not an evil stepmother, limiting yourself in everything. It is especially important to reward yourself in difficult times when you have failed. Please yourself with something, give yourself a consolation gift. Take yourself to a massage, a manicure, a candy store, dinner at a restaurant, make yourself a bath with salt and oils, buy a new lipstick or a new dress. Everyone can fail, everyone is wrong. Only the one who does nothing is not mistaken. Cheer yourself up, regain your strength. Even giving yourself a kilogram of fruit is good. You can give yourself more - give more.
Rules - have your own rules of life, observe internal discipline. This applies to all areas of life. Take, for example, the rules about our body and health: proper nutrition, exercise, self-care. We deny ourselves rolls and pies not because we don’t love ourselves, but quite the opposite, out of love for ourselves. Introducing food discipline. Sports and practices - if I do not go in for sports, go in for my body, then I will not feel very well, the body will be undeveloped, it will often hurt. We develop discipline out of love for ourselves. It is easy not to love yourself with a cigarette in a restaurant or with wine in a bar; it is difficult to love yourself with a glass of freshly squeezed juice, doing sports every day. We treat ourselves as our most beloved child. Will you feed your beloved child with all sorts of nasty things and pour various rubbish into him? The answer is obvious. Treat yourself the same way. Acceptance of your addictions is not the same as acceptance and encouragement, it is looseness and laxity. We care about those we love. so let's take care of ourselves first. The same applies to our work - if I love myself and take care of myself, then I organize my life so that I work not twelve hours a day, but for example four hours.
Permission is the "P" about dreams and prospects. How do I see my life prospects, how do I imagine myself in 5 years? Do I allow myself to dream big, believing that all the most beautiful thing in this world is created especially for me? Do I consider myself worthy of a better life, do I see that my path is going up all the time? Do I consider myself worthy of having everything I want in my life? In love, in creativity, in realization, in everyday life? Do not be afraid to dream, paint yourself the most daring and iridescent pictures of your future. Never say phrases like "this is unreal" or "this is not from my life." We do not know how life can turn tomorrow, and what miracles await us around the turn of fate. Let abundance fill your life. This point is very important - as far as our permission is developed, we are ready to improve and expand our life.
Love yourself and be happy!
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