Conscious And Subconscious Self-concept

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I think everyone will agree that self-esteem significantly affects our implementation in the world.

How we interact with the environment and how the environment relates to us. All of this is closely related to self-esteem

The sphere of relationships, the sphere of professional realization, the sphere of personal success, financial, as a man / woman, husband / wife, friend, employee, etc.

Self-assessment can be divided into the following components:

- KNOWLEDGE about yourself: Who am i? What I can, what not. What is difficult for me, that I know what I can do, and so on (this is the level of the logical mind).

- FEELING: What am I? What is my nature? How do I feel? (level of sensations, how I feel myself, subconsciousness).

- IDENTIFICATION of yourself: with which I identify myself.

For example: I am my physical body + mind. I am my thoughts + my body. I am my feelings. I am my actions. I am my thoughts and feelings. Etc.

(the level of subconscious beliefs and attitudes).

Now more details about the first two

1) KNOWLEDGE about yourself

This is the information about us that we have accumulated earlier in the process of life, and we accumulate + change every day. A rapidly accumulating and rapidly changing part.

We learned to drive a car - immediately we think of ourselves that we can drive a car. We also went for a drive - we immediately think that we already know how to drive normally, but not yet very experienced. We learned new information, and if we accepted it, we immediately operate with this information in our thoughts.

Everything that we read, watch, learn, comprehend.

So this is the level of the logical mind. This is what we THINK of ourselves.

2) FEELING YOURSELF

These are those sensations, feelings, emotions - how we feel ourselves. I am strong, I am confident, I am weak, I am persistent, I am quiet, I am humble, I am kind, I am open and so on.

It is formed at the level of sensations - during situations in which we experienced strong emotions and feelings.

80% of the sensory is created between birth and 16 years.

This is the subconscious level. It is difficult to form: ordinary actions do not affect the sensory level, ONLY strongly emotionally vivid situations in life, as well as medium vivid - often repeated.

Internal subconscious feeling - What am I?

There are many of them, each person has their own, I will write some common subconscious feelings.

For example, if in a number of childhood situations we FEEL like ABANDONED parents:

- physically (they weren’t around when we needed them badly - they left us for a long time, there was a divorce and one of the parents left the family, etc.);

- emotionally (parents were cold, strict, we lacked emotional warmth, support).

We felt UNNECESSARY, WONDERFUL:

In some situations, when there was a lack of ATTENTION to us and UNDERSTANDING of our needs - the parents were busy with their own business, ignored our questions, requests, desires, for us, the parents used NECESSARY, MUST.

We felt UNWorthy, in situations where our parents did not accept us for who we are: we do not walk like this, we do not look like that, we do not look like that, we do it differently, we do not think so, we do not correspond to something.

We felt UNDESIGNED OF LOVE, in situations where we urgently needed parental warmth, and they gave it to us in portions. For example, only when we did something for them what they wanted.

The sensory level is deep. It is not fully conscious of our mind. This is the subconscious level. He sits within us.

During our adult life, we greatly improved our logical self-esteem: we learned, acquired a bunch of skills, we began to understand more in life, to be able to do more, to earn more, to mean more, and so on.

At the same time, with all this logical change in self-esteem, the subconscious, sensory part changed very little during this time. Because the subconscious is inert.

During the time of adulthood, experience, failure and success - the time of adulthood, we have engraved the tip of the iceberg of self-esteem.

Yes, the lower part of the iceberg is practically invisible, but it lives in us - and affects our life, and the influence of subconscious self-esteem is much more global than logical (mental) self-esteem.

The level of the mind is different from the level of the subconscious

Perhaps you still have a lot of resentment, anger at your parents and other people from the inner circle of our childhood.

Or maybe it was not left in the mind - at the level of the mind, we forgave them a lot and accepted that yes, they were not ideal parents, but still they tried and did a lot, did as best they could, as best they could, as they understood.

And maybe now you have a good relationship with your parents, but … at the level of sensations, a lot of childhood is still in us.

For example, if you had strong emotional upheavals in childhood that made you feel ABANDONED, then in adulthood you subconsciously (and maybe consciously too) - strive for such relationships so as not to face feelings of loneliness, abandonment. And, at the same time, relationships can be created with those people with whom you feel bad in other areas of life, but getting a feeling RELATIONSHIPS, UNITS with such a person - to the detriment of everything else, you will hold on to him.

Another example.

if you had strong emotional upheavals in childhood in which you felt Unworthy or NOTHINGthen in life you have and achieve MUCH less than they could, because deep down you still carry that feeling.

The same when you felt like Unworthy of love - in adulthood, you act so that the person who is dear to you is constantly giving something (very often to the detriment of yourself). This is done unconsciously, because you feel unworthy inside yourself. Feel that people's attention to yourself is needed DESERVE.

You feel that you can be LOVE ONLY FOR SOMETHING. It is impossible to love you just like that - simply because you are in a person's life. You don't deserve it.

As a result, at work you plow like an ox, in relationships you do a lot of everything - always deserving. People get involved in your sensation - and play along with you in your game - giving attention, warmth, etc. when you deserve, and not giving - when you don't. In fact, you have unknowingly surrounded yourself with such people. Mind you want one thing, but your subconscious mind leads to other situations, people, types of relationships.

The subconscious mind works imperceptibly for us, but I am sure that you do notice some of the subconscious sensations, you encounter them in a number of unpleasant situations in life.

The influence of the subconscious mind is so enormous that it outweighs conscious self-esteem.

Having changed a number of strong subconscious feelings of self, life significantly improves in all areas: relations with husband / wife begin to change significantly for the better, finances begin to come on a large scale, things that were previously barely realizable begin to be solved more easily

Svyatoslav Stetsenko, 2015-08-07