2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The famous psychologist Kurt Lewin developed the theory of change in the first half of the last century, which is also applicable in our modern world.
In short, it reads: there is always a driving force that gives change and attractive changes for people, and the same force of resistance to this, restraining forces trying to keep everything as it is, to remain in the usual. Everything is moving towards balance.
For any change, it is necessary to change habitual thoughts, behavior, actions and upset our balance. Then we meet with internal resistance to change and want everything to remain the same.
That is, you need to make more efforts so that the driving forces are more powerful than the resistance, and then we will receive changes.
For example, I want to learn English and for this I need to make an effort and get out of the usual weekly routine - to find free time for lessons, homework and practice speaking the language.
I am changing the balance of my life.
And here I meet with resistance - maybe later, now I don't have enough free time, well, I started to study, but now I don't have an urgent need for this knowledge, it costs money, costs and free time, and I still can't do it at all memorize the rules.
I'll put it off until better times. (You can add your own version here - sports, changing your eating habits, studying, a desire to change your job, changing behavior in relationships).
I want to reassure you that this seems to be a normal process, you need to realize it in yourself, identify the "demons" of resistance and get the desired changes.
The following steps can help with this:
1. Determine the changes you would like. Write down a goal or vision for the future desired state. (I want to learn English and speak it fluently with foreigners).
2. Write down the driving forces that will drive change, what actions you need to take. (Sign up for English courses, in a conversation club; learn the rules; go to a conversation club and do homework two days a week; watch movies and read books in English).
3. Think about possible constraining forces that might resist change, write them down. (There is not enough money to participate in courses and in a conversation club at the same time, lack of free time on weekdays, etc.).
4. Assess the driving and restraining forces, which of them prevails, how can you influence or change them? (I can only choose courses for now and study and practice the necessary tasks on my own at home; I can allocate an hour and a half after work for practice; on weekends I can visit institutions where I can communicate with foreigners).
5. Develop a strategy to strengthen the driving forces and weaken the constraints. Sometimes it is easier to weaken the restraining forces than to strengthen the driving forces.
6. Determine the order of actions that will give the greatest result. What resources you need for this and decide how you will carry out the planned actions. (Here you can turn on the power of imagination and creativity and build suitable actions for yourself).
Get the changes you want, commit and enjoy.
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