10 Reasons Why I Don't Want Sex

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Sooner or later, each of us faces sexual problems. They can manifest themselves in different ways, but one of them is the lack of desire for sex with your partner. Now I am writing more about women and I want to list the most common reasons that I have met in life and in practice.

1. Mistrust in a partner, inability to relax in a relationship.

Most often, behind this is the problem of mistrust in people and the world in general, a desire to control everything that happens around. Fear of dissolving in sexual pleasure and losing control of the situation and yourself. Sexual trauma can also be added here. Violation of physical boundaries, first bad or painful sex, etc.

(It is necessary to focus the work on building confidence, working through sexual trauma).

2. Impaired perception of one's own body.

Lack of connection with the body, self-doubt. Complexes associated with appearance, which interfere with being and present in contact. They interfere with opening up.

(Working with self-esteem and self-confidence).

3. Uncertainty in a partner, inability to rely on him and feel support.

Lack of respect as a man. In this situation, women feel much stronger than their partner, more successful, earn more. Repulsion occurs subconsciously.

(Here it is important to understand why you have chosen such a partner, why such an experience, why do you need to be strong?

How is it possible to find a compromise in such a relationship?).

4. A long-term relationship that has turned into a very trusting one.

Paradox, we strive in relations with our man for idyll, intimacy and trust. But it is the trusting relationship that destroys the desire for sex. We merge into one, each of us is not separate. And for the desire it is necessary just to separate, to see the partner as a different person, separate. It doesn't belong to you. Sex needs novelty, instability, spontaneity, which you can bring into your life together.

(Try to research and find ways to diversify your sex life.)

5. Different preferences in sex. Lack of dialogue with a partner on this topic.

For example:

- you are gentle and sensitive. In bed, you want a man to treat you that way. But he is rude;

- you are strong, your partner is too gentle. And you would like him to take the initiative, take everything into his own hands and be stronger, more persistent in bed;

- you like rough sex, and the guy is very responsible at work and gets very tired, at home he wants to receive more tenderness from you. And etc.

(It is important here to learn how to talk with your partner about such intimate topics.

Declare that you would like to have sexual intercourse.

Discuss, seek compromises and at the same time take into account the value of the desire and opinion of the other).

6. Health problems.

Often, even the most harmless bacteria can affect a woman's sexual desire. Even if nothing bothers you, it is important to monitor your health. Not to mention diseases, after recovery from which, impairment of attraction or even a psychological block can also occur.

(Monitoring your women's health. Working out blocks).

7. Cheating partner.

Even if you have forgiven and tried to forget, you decided to stay with your loved one. Often there is a sediment in the form of resentment, with which women can walk for years and not want their partner. Or you have developed a sexual interest in someone else.

(Work with resentment, feelings that have not been lived through. Perhaps you need to work with the fear of parting).

8. Stress.

A lot of work, lack of adequate sleep and rest, lack of food and vitamins. Relationship conflicts and fights are also stressful.

(It is important here to take care of the body's physical needs and balance in the relationship.)

nine. Fear of relationships, stopping your sexual arousal, sublimating it into other things.

An imposed opinion from childhood that sex is dirty and vulgar, good girls don't do it.

(Dealing with fears and imposed opinions from the outside,

that affect you.)

10. Pregnancy.

Here I think you can do without comments.