2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
To be happy, to feel carefree, easy and simple.
This is the root of all and any fears, ranging from the fear of death, loneliness, rejection and ending with the fear of pain.
What is the fear of feeling carefree and happy?
The fact that you are deprived of all, without exception, levers of influence on life, dictating to life your requirements, conditions, claims and desires.
If something is needed, if there is a difficulty - you decide if there is such an opportunity. If there is no such possibility, then there is nothing to worry about.
If you want to drive your own comfortable car instead of using public transport - you decide this question. Getting involved in life, taking the simple steps available to you in this direction. And if your interest is direct and sincere, your question will definitely be resolved.
If it is hard for you to live in those sensations and states that happen to you and in which you are uncomfortable, you begin to solve this issue in the way that is available to you now - you become more attentive and sensitive to your judgments, emotions and thoughts. And this is now available to you.
Most of the questions of desires and claims to life, to oneself and to others, each person has the opportunity to solve, joining in life and in what is important and significant for you at the moment.
Having learned to really resolve your issues, to get involved in life, stopping to squabble and pretend to be a victim who needs some special conditions, in some special attitude and attention, ceasing to wait and demand anything from life and people around, seeing that everything or almost everything is really in your own hands not in words - you open up freedom. You literally open your wings behind your back. Life ceases to be a burden and turns out to be a clean, unstained sheet, in which, not in words, but literally - everything depends on you, on your consciousness, attentiveness and inclusiveness.
So you stop being a victim of life, people, circumstances, so you become authors - responsible for your life with all the sensations, events and circumstances with which it is filled.
And if you learn to live like this, one day, you will certainly discover that in life, far from everything depends solely on you and your desires and even the most selfless works.
Something in life is not at all in your power, something is prepared.
There is something with which no labor or effort helps. Truly close people sometimes leave: someone dies, and someone breaks up with you forever. After the summer comes a cool fall, and after the fall - a cold winter, and even if you are madly in love with summer, you cannot change the course of these phenomena. Your children, no matter how hard you try, will not always and by no means follow your advice in everything and will not always be like you, and will not always be happy - they will not avoid pain, will not save them from the trials that are in store for them. … They are just different, and you cannot change that. Your parents do not support you in everything, and sometimes they do not even have the strength to do this, they may not become wiser and more aware over the years - and this is also not in your power, no matter how hard you try. You can be unexpectedly fired from your job, your savings can burn out along with the crisis, your car can crash, and you can even lose a roof over your head. Sometimes the sun is in the sky, and sometimes clouds, lunar cycles occur in their prepared rhythm, and this affects you, affects your state and your feelings. And all this and much, much more is not in your power.
So, having learned to be conscious in life, to be whole, to be the master, one day you discover that you are not the masters of life. But only by learning to be the masters, you are able to face it without offense, without getting upset, without shutting down. You are able to meet this humbly.
Yes, a person is afraid to live, afraid to live happily, fully, openly. To be like this means you have no one and nothing to blame. This means that there are no other reasons and explanations for what is happening to you, and for what you feel, other than yourself. You are the masters, and there is no other authority over you. You are the actors and directors of your own life, and it depends only on you what colors this unique life will be painted with.
Something is in your power, and it is necessary to selflessly be able to engage in it, completely, with your head, having lost yourself, and learn to act. But something is not in your power, and with this you need to be able to be humble, quiet, without argument and without empty attempts to do something.
And the most important thing is to be able to distinguish one from the other, not to be confused. In this, a person gains satisfaction and integrity: without arguing with what to argue with is stupid and senseless, without trying to change what cannot be changed; and turning on, acting where to postpone, waiting "by the sea for the weather" in the hopes that "everything will happen by itself" is just as stupid and senseless.
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