2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A common "wisdom" in modern business culture is that there is no place for uncomfortable thoughts and feelings in the office. And that employees, especially managers, should be either stoic or eternal optimists. They are required to radiate confidence and contain their storm of emotions, especially "negative" ones. But this violates the elementary laws of biology. No matter how good workers they would be, healthy people have a stream of thoughts and feelings, including criticism, doubts and fears, seething inside. This is how the human brain works, trying to make sense of the world, anticipate and solve problems and avoid possible dangers.
Because of this, potential hooks are waiting for us on the robot everywhere. The job harnesses and integrates our hidden beliefs, self-concepts, sense of competition and collaboration, and all of the life experiences we have gained prior to joining the position.
Even if the robot is connected with data processing and analytics, spreadsheets and strictly rational decisions, the office is the stake on which emotional problems play out, whether we realize it or not. At work, especially in difficult situations, we often recall our own long-standing stories of who we used to imagine ourselves to be.
These old-fashioned narratives can get us hooked at critical moments. For example, when we are criticized or criticized; when we feel compelled to take on more robots or work faster; when we succumb to the personal influence of bosses or employees; when we feel that we are underestimated … that is, you get the idea. The list goes on.
To get ahead, we need to update these narratives in the same way we update a resume. And just as, after graduating from university, we forget about the summer part-time job, we need to leave something from the past in the past.
The intense pace and complexity of life made emotional flexibility all the more important. The business world is leading the way in change: globalization, technological modernization, revision of regulations, demographic changes make work unforeseen. Requirements can change every few months, the goals of the previous quarter lose their relevance, reductions, consolidations and reorganizations are everywhere. From such a battle, even without emotion, you can go crazy.
Under these conditions, being effective at work requires careful consideration of your plans. To do this, you should anticipate how our decisions will affect other aspects of the company or project and adjust them as needed. Elasticity is needed to meet the same daily constants: uncertainty and change. We also need communication in order to use the resources of the group to generate fresh ideas and implement them.
Unfortunately, the speed and changes that require flexibility make us hardened. There is so much information flowing to us and so many decisions to be made that we can quickly get used to stopping at the first appropriate option. That is, resort to black and white thinking. And as soon as we do not have enough time to communicate, we bring relationships to transactions. After all, when you reply to 300 messages every day, you are limited to a short answer.
The consequence of this confusion is immature and simplistic solutions, without thinking about stress, emotional tension, and the naive hope that some kind of technology and multitasking will provide a solution.
The article appeared thanks to the book "Emotional Agility" by Susan David
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