Who Do You See In Front Of You In The Mirror?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Every day, looking at ourselves in the mirror, each of us sees there a reflection of our inner world. Not appearance, not beauty or defects, but his INSIDE, that which consists of a person's vision of himself in full. But exactly how we see these "bodily details" and through the prism of what attitude towards ourselves we look in the mirror, directly depends on self-esteem … the one that is deeply rooted in our subconsciousness in the deepest childhood.

So where does a person's assessment of himself come from? We'll figure out.

● the very meaning of the word "self-esteem" tells us that a person independently evaluates himself as a person, his place in society, what he can strive for, what kind of people to choose in his environment and personal belonging to certain reference groups, how to look, How to speak in a tone and, ultimately, where to look - in the eyes of the interlocutor or in the floor, afraid of someone else's opinion and self-image.

● it is obvious that the legs of such a multi-component concept grow from the times when we were taught good manners, behavior in society and who and what should do, fulfilling their social roles.

As much as we love our loved ones, they lay in us the foundation of uncertainty in the future, denial of ourselves, belief in our own worthlessness and unworthiness of the best.

● grains that we ourselves throw into the ground are also very important. I mean the choice of passive children in the same passive position in life. Very often, due to banal laziness, a child begins to play the role of a bungler, a loser, or someone who, well, cannot understand mathematical formulas in any way. So, from day to day, little people impose their worthlessness on themselves, and parents, believing in such a skillful game, begin to pity them and indulge the weaknesses of their own children, thereby forever burning bridges to their future, filled with meaning and aspirations.

● respect for the personal boundaries of the child. Very often, adults are skeptical about the child's desire to make their own decisions, set tasks for themselves (albeit childishly funny) and INDEPENDENTLY follow the path to their solution. So how can such adult children know in the future that they have the right to their own autonomy and intimacy? How do they know that by listening to their ideas, people will not be so dubious to look them in the eye. A n and o t to u d a!

● the position of the victim and the position of the abuser. How adults behave with each other also influences the formation of a child's personality. If there is abuse in the family, the child has two paths in the future - the role of the victim or the role of the abuser. According to these roles, a person will choose a strategy of behavior and representation of his place in life.

● at a conscious age, a person's self-esteem is influenced by his victories and defeats, the opinion of others about him, social status, health status and many other factors. BUT … a person who was brought up in an atmosphere of love, support and encouragement will never pay attention to the smirks of an opponent, to the opinions of others (while having his own!), Such a person will definitely not become a hypochondriac and a "couch" inhabitant.

In any case, if a person cannot independently figure out the reasons for low self-esteem and cope with the feeling of his own weakness, a psychologist will help ✌