2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Once again about why and why you need to work out limiting beliefs. Because when the beliefs are realized (or better - worked out), a person has a choice - to do this or that.
Stay in boring office work (because you need to be officially registered!) Or go to freelance (which has its own tasks, but also more freedom).
Stay in a relationship (because how about without a relationship, then?) Or be alone and deal with yourself (and what kind of relationship do I want?).
To give birth to a child as soon as possible (because motherhood is the destiny of a woman) or to understand for myself whether it is necessary for me personally (because, as history shows, not everyone needs it).
Continue to dream about something that will never happen (because I still won't succeed) or decide to do what I have wanted for so long (because it can and will work out).
Any action implies some kind of consequences. You need to move towards any goal. It is all the more important that a person has a choice.
The choice to follow your heart (or your true values, whichever you prefer) is already about the position of the author, not the position of the victim.
Risks are everywhere. It's just that with a conscious choice, a person decides for himself what risks to take. When choosing an unconscious (and he is unconscious, when a person is ruled by unconscious beliefs), a person bears risks for which he did not seem to give consent.
Most of our beliefs appear very early in our life - when there is no critical thinking yet and the child takes away everything he sees from the environment. And they are not realized.
Yes, I understand that it is unpleasant to realize it. That you have attitudes in your head that govern your behavior. Good news? As soon as the attitude is realized, the strength of its influence is significantly reduced. Sometimes a simple swinging of the tricks of the tongue is enough for this, it is not even necessary to replace the conviction.
Finally, catch two stories that demonstrate how beliefs work well:
- “A jealous wife inspects her husband's jacket every day and for every hair she finds, she arranges scenes of jealousy for him. Once she did not find a single hair and shouted: “This is what you have reached, you don’t disdain even bald women!” (Author unknown)
- “A psychiatrist treated a man who believed that he was a corpse. Despite all the logical arguments, the patient persisted in his conviction. Once, in a flash of inspiration, a psychiatrist asked a patient: "Are the corpses bleeding?" He replied: “Are you laughing? Of course not". After asking the patient for permission, the psychiatrist pricked his finger and squeezed out a drop of bright red blood. The patient looked at the bloody finger with contempt and surprise and exclaimed, “Damn it! It turns out that corpses are bleeding! "" (From the book "Beliefs and Habits. How to Change?", Robert Dilts)
Beliefs are walls. Think who built the walls in your head:) Maybe they are overgrown with moss, these walls, and it's high time to demolish them
:)
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