To Be Or Not To Be: Happy

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

There are people who don't really want to be happy. No, they, of course, will never say that out loud or even think to themselves. Oh, in fact - yes

For example, you give a friend a plane ticket and a two-week vacation in a classy hotel in these fabulous Canary Islands. Just like that, out of sincere motives, because he was tired of work, repairs in the apartment and constant butting with a picky project manager. And you hear in response the almost standard "I can't, I have a job, repairs, a girlfriend, and in general, so unexpectedly" … And you seemed to want the best, but this is not necessary, because it is more customary to sit in Nikolaev, continuing to complain about tiredness and such an unfair life.

Or like this. You and a group of friends are choosing a country and a hotel for a joint vacation for a long time and persistently. Change vacation schedules so everyone can do it. And now at the hotel one of the group begins to "nag" that the robes are too fluffy, the water in the pool is too wet, the food is too nourishing, and the waiters do not smile enough when serving drinks. And in general, the city is not that boring, but not impressive … And now you are on such a long-awaited vacation, but on this trip - everyone is happy in their own way.

Because everyone formulates happiness for himself in different ways. For some, it is in freedom of movement and thought, in perpetual motion with fading only during such unreal dawns. For others, it's like curling up on the couch with a cup of cocoa and melting little marshmallows and chatting with loved ones you haven't seen for so long. For others, happiness is something completely abstract and difficult to achieve, unprecedented, like among the classics. And then how to be happy is not clear. And everything that is offered in the form of options is not suitable, because there is no such internal litmus test.

It seems to us that happiness will come by the hand with achievements and accomplishments, the purchase of an apartment / car / personal island. We are so accustomed to postponing the joy of today until later that it turns into never. Such a syndrome of delayed happiness.

Children are amazing because they know how to be happy all the time and in little things. Here the ladybug sat down on his knee - and everything else blurred, because here it is - happiness, crawling on his knee. Or maybe my mother bought cotton candy on a walk and the whole world immediately became deliciously smelling, melting in her hands and a little sticky, but so tasty! But the dog jumped with dirty paws when you came home from school, and figs with these jeans, this is happiness - wagging its tail and hiding its wet nose in your warm palms.

Sometimes it seems to me that happiness is such an internal resource, like an internal battery that no one else but me can charge. Because I choose to enjoy these unreal colors of the sunset or pass by. It's up to me to decide whether to enjoy the awesome aroma of freshly brewed coffee that always reminds me of Mom, or grumble that there is nothing to wear again.