2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A real baby boom attacked shops, magazines, newspapers, television and the Internet. The topic of children and their development is literally in full swing. Parents do not get tired of proving to each other how it is worthwhile to treat upbringing “more correctly”. Here and there one can hear proud statements about how a child "counts well at two years old", "writes well at 4 years old", "solves examples and equations at 6". Other parents are horrified and despairing: "And my, just … molds cakes from sand, and with a stick, like a rapier waving …". High demands on children lead parents (in particular, mothers) into deep depression. After all, she “failed”, “did not learn”, “did not give an education” … Moreover, neighbors and friends, who are vying with each other to shout about the success of their children, consider it simply necessary to reproach the parents: “Yes, you could not raise a child”.
Where is the truth? And what is really "to educate" and "to educate »?!
Psychologists and educators agree that the desire of parents to teach skills that are not characteristic of their children by age is, rather, an insanity and the realization of their own ambitions, rather than quality education.
Just think - is it so important for a child to count to 20 at two years old? Is it natural for a child to learn to solve equations in 6? What instinct finds its realization in reading at the age of 4? It is one thing when a child himself is drawn to reading and asks his parents to "teach", but another thing when the teaching is violent and rather ruins the child's still unformed psyche. Do you understand now what “happy” parents will have to deal with during their school years? Depression, child anxiety and psycho-somatic disorders … The price of unreasonable early reading is great though.
The predominant factor in the healthy development of a child is full contact between the child and the parents. Mom is an important figure in the child's life. Full contact with the mother forms calmness, emotional balance, stabilization of the child's condition. The father is an equally important figure for the healthy development of the child. In infancy, the figure of the father performs a similar function to the figure of the mother. A little later - it is the dad who will help in the formation of goal-setting, responsibility, perseverance in the child. And if we discard the child's contact with any of the parents, the consequences can be absolutely unpredictable. That is why sometimes parenting is just a hug and a cute evening game with a child.
The current tendency of young parents to isolate their child from the outside world by all available means is also frightening. Sand? It is forbidden! He's dirty! A stick is harmful! The worms will start. And in general it is impossible to poke around in the ground. All this is "dangerous" and "not clean". However, it is acquaintance with nature and its components help the child to develop correctly, as a part of the whole big world. Self-awareness allows the child to grow in harmony with himself and others, so important "psychophysiological" development takes place. And then - our ancestors did not live in antibacterial conditions at all. Immunity was formed in the current environment - is there anything to think about?..
Not less important give the child the opportunity to find himself and reveal his inner potential with the help of absolutely banal toys … Often the rule is that the more expensive the toy is, the more "one-day" it is. What happens during the game? The inner world of the child is revealed in a key way, he finds himself, imagination takes place. And how can the play of imagination turn on when the toy carries an absolutely ready-made set of functions? For example, remember how each of us, as children, played with toys? Girls swaddled dolls, changed diapers, imagining that the dolls relieved themselves, imagined that they were preparing and feeding children. The boys built paper boats and airplanes, hid little soldiers like a real military detachment, and organized battles.. Now what? There is no need to imagine - the doll will eat and drink and describe diapers (any whim for the parents' money), and a full arsenal of cars, tanks, boats and soldiers will fight on their own … No fantasy - only primitive reproduction. That is why try to look for the most primitive toys for your child. And, in fact, let other parents look at you a little "strange". After all, this is your child and you are responsible for raising him.
In general, there are many ways to give education and correct age-related development. When parents buy up tons of books and periodicals on upbringing, they want to one fine moment turn off the Internet for many parents, take the books and turn off the TV. Listen to your inner voice. Instinctively, we can all raise and educate a child correctly without any special means at all. Ready to hear yourself and your baby? Then start …
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