2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We believe that marriage is meant to improve our lives, but these expectations are not always met. Feelings are not eternal and pass into different forms, wealth may also be unstable. During their life together, the couple faces many difficulties and crises.
- Feelings faded, passion passed
- Material well-being has fallen
- Genetics failed to materialize
- The existing marriage does not match your scenario
Couples are on the verge of divorce, are at an impasse and cannot make a decision. As a rule, it is easier for a man to separate from his family and acquire new relationships. It is difficult for women to get rid of marital burdens, because
- Feelings are alive
- There is a responsibility for the future of children
- Material dependence
- Fear of loneliness
- Irrational beliefs (marriage is forever, etc.)
It turns out anxious, disappointed, eternally tolerant women with many neuroses and fears, who expect that a miracle psychologist will solve all their problems in a couple of meetings.
Each case is different. The problems are indeed solvable, but not by a miracle, but by parsing and techniques.
Answer general questions.
- DO YOU NEED A MARRIAGE IN PRINCIPLE?
- WHY? WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE?
- CAN YOUR HUMAN BE GIVE YOU THIS?
By answering these questions to yourself, it will become easier for you to sort out the situation. In the process of answering, you will get confused if everything is confused. If you feel confused, move on to the next layer of relationships. Yes Yes. According to my theory of marriage, relationships are layered and can be easily located where the problem is.
LET'S TRY TO DISASSEMBLE.
- Social component … Marriage is a legal concept. This is a transaction, a contract that implies the responsibility of both parties, rights and obligations. Not to be confused with the sensual component. Feelings may disappear, but respect and responsibility will remain. A person will not act mean in relation to what you have in common simply because you do not make him lust.
- Sensual component … This is your desire to be together, because you feel good together. You do something for your family and partner, not because you have to, but because you want it and it brings joy and satisfaction.
- The partner's assessment of 1. AND 2.
- what gives
- which does not give, but I would like
- what can give
- what can not give
- what he wants but cannot give
- what can give, but does not want
- what has changed by 1.
- what has changed for 2.
4. Assessing yourself
- what I give
- that I do not give, but I would like
- what can I give
- what I can not give
- what I want, but I can't give
- what I can give, but I don’t want
- what has changed by 1.
- what has changed by 2.
This express diagnostics of relationships is just a stage in the study of relationships, it will not replace a trip to a specialist
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