About The Principles Of Gestalt Therapy And Not Only

Video: About The Principles Of Gestalt Therapy And Not Only

Video: About The Principles Of Gestalt Therapy And Not Only
Video: Gestalt therapy explained 2024, March
About The Principles Of Gestalt Therapy And Not Only
About The Principles Of Gestalt Therapy And Not Only
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Author: Shatinskaya Irina

Something caught my eye - I could not pass by. Hooked.

Fritz (Frederick) Perls is the "father" of gestalt therapy, have you heard of this, do you know about it? …

We will assume that yes))

So, the three fundamental principles of his work with the client, the main provisions of his therapy, as I see it, generally have the right to become a concept of approach to life.

Therefore, I will share them. And I will allow myself some comments.

First.

Expecting justice from the world because you are good is akin to expecting that you will not be attacked by a bull because you are a vegetarian.

This is Fritz Perls.

That's how it is. The world is not necessarily just. Often not.

Nevertheless, shaping and creating ourselves, we somehow change the structure of the world. At least what is around us.

When we change, those who are near change.

And this is the only possible direction in consulting a client with his frequent "request" - I want him … to become what I want.

The second thing Perls is talking about is:

Dependency on evaluation makes everyone we meet the judge of our life.

And, I add, this is about all kinds of dependence on others, all about our life with an eye to the assessment of others.

Do you really think that someone has the right to do this? Are you really ready to voluntarily give everyone you meet the prerogative to judge yourself?

Is it not you, and only you - the one who, the only one, knows at least something (and that is not all) about himself?

And the rest?.. and who are the judges?..

We wish everyone who undertakes to judge us to take up their own life.

And the last thing.

Do we have the right to tell people the truth about them?

(Strictly speaking, this applies not only to psychologists and their clients).

Only the truth, which the person himself reveals, writes Fritz Perls, can you withstand: the pride of self-discovery helps to come to terms with the ruthlessness of the truth.

This is a very deep thought.

Stop here.

Reread.

Are we ready to hear the uterus truth being cut in our eyes?

You are ready?..

Alfred Adler, another leading figure, a star of the first magnitude in the world of psychology, is categorical:

“Together with knowledge about human nature, the question arises of how best to apply this knowledge. It is easier to outrage a person and incur his harsh criticism by laying out to him the bare facts revealed during the study of his psyche. Those who study human nature must learn to walk this minefield with care. The best way to ruin your reputation is to misuse your knowledge through frivolity, for example, to show how deeply you have penetrated the essence of your neighbor's character at the table. Even experienced people in science will be offended by this behavior. We must repeat what has already been said: knowledge of human nature obliges us to be humble.

We must not betray the results of our experiments by disclosing them immediately or hastily. Such an act could be forgiven for a small child who is impatient to show off his mind and demonstrate his success, but such behavior is not appropriate for an adult."

Truth makes us free, says the Bible.

Maybe.

If he doesn't kill him first.

With the truth - and this is still not the truth …

with her - it is necessary to be more careful.

It is not for nothing that our psyche has so many defense mechanisms that are formed from childhood and help us survive.

Another thing is that later they interfere with life.

To live, understanding yourself, in contact with yourself, according to your own rules, and not defending yourself, not isolating yourself, not proving something to the voice of your mother in your head. And not expecting from the world that someday he will become our ideal mother.

How can you tell someone the truth?

The psychologist must, among other things, master a complex art. This is the art of asking the right questions.

To them the answers are supposed to be sought by the person himself. If they are found on their own, then the joy of insight makes change possible. Then the person will strive for these changes, will be ready for them and will want to work in this direction himself.

But the mirror that psychotherapy is supposed to be … not everyone needs it.

Not everyone can stand it.

Many will run away.

Meanwhile, in my opinion, psychotherapy is necessary for everyone, because - because we all had parents.

(And whoever did not have it - even more so).

I suggest looking at the client not through the glasses of truth.

And through the glasses of love.

You know, in love - there is always truth.

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