How To Be Closer To Yourself?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I am for people to be as sincere with themselves and the world as possible.

I am for each of us not to be afraid to be who he is.

I am for people to be able to accept themselves and others.

I am for each of us to have contact with ourselves.

I am for all of us to know what we want, what we strive for, and this was our desire, not someone else's.

I am for the fact that we did not strive for perfectionism and something ideal.

I am in favor of each person realizing their own resources and capabilities.

I am for each of us not to be too demanding of ourselves.

It would seem that everything is simple. However, it is so difficult to maintain all this in every day. It so happens that it is not always possible to take off the mask of a wife, mother, or some kind of specialist. There are some public portraits that we need to match. No other way.

The more we fit such portraits, the more we depend on them. We surround ourselves with all sorts of “must”, “I can’t let you down”, “what will they think”, etc. At the same time, we are very far from our desires. The most interesting thing is that in society, we can often communicate through the prism of our masks, or observe how others do it.

Any lack of synchronization with oneself causes internal dissatisfaction and conflict. All this we safely take out on our loved ones. They annoy us, enrage us, cause anger, discontent, etc. But in fact, the reason is in ourselves, it is our intrapersonal conflict. One of our units can no longer stand it, no agreement has been reached with it. It is very difficult for any person to live within the masks and rules called “what will they think of me”. Therefore, periodic failures are guaranteed.

In addition, we are influenced by the historical past in which our parents and grandparents lived in the villages. The installations of these villages are still in us. It is necessary to live for several more generations in big cities so as not to hear the echo of the village. Life in the village is at a glance. Everyone knows everything about everyone. Many rules of behavior and decency come from here. It is better to be like everyone else, not to stand out and express yourself. When “like everyone else”, no one judges, will not say anything bad, and the parents are calm. And with age, our parents move into our inner voice and already dictate from there. It seems that we are adults, but we hear the voice of our mother.

That's how we live. And in order to get rid of this, it is important to take a small step towards yourself and your desires every day. Letting go of correctness and perfection. Often ask yourself the following questions: “do I want to do this”, “if not, why am I doing this”, “how can I compensate myself for my“need”,“what can I do for myself in such a situation”,“do I like what they offer me”,“do I want to say “yes” now”.

It is important to learn to act in accordance with the call of the heart. The heart will always tell you where to go and what to do. The heart is capable of removing all masks, being sincere, accepting itself and others. The heart knows your abilities. At any age, your heart will tell you that it is not too late to start something, to change your life, not to move according to charters and rules.

I am for each of us to always listen to our heart and act according to its voice.