2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57
A young, beautiful woman is being consulted.
She came on time, took a diary and a pen with her, so what? She broadcasts a desire to take something away or give the impression of interest. She is very busy and closed.
She talks about herself impulsively and slightly raising her head. Pretentiousness, neatness and arrogance merge into a wave of light negativity and aggression.
For the whole hour, my arms are tightly crossed over my chest. The woman calls herself self-sufficient, strong and confident. Even at the moment of strong emotional shock, he hides tears, not showing his sadness and diligently hiding behind phrases: "Yes, everyone lives like this," "Look around," "You need to look at everything usually and be simpler."
He hides from his fears and does not set tasks that he can definitely overcome. So unnaturally promises to do homework in the form of tests. When asked about unnaturalness, he laughs and declares that I am partly right. Some parts of her body are definitely unnatural. We discuss the topic of aggression and, overcoming internal defenses and suppressed emotions, we come to the conclusion that it is he who is to blame for everything. Fear, of course. Even that unnaturalness is present.
To the question why? Several dozen answers are selected, but the key phrases about "everyone has it" and "I don’t bother" move the woman to a dead end that turns into insight.
She was taught to hide in childhood, where she experienced physical and moral abuse. Hence the desire for masochistic improvement and the desire to merge with the majority, having lost their own individuality and dissimilarity.
The choice of a negative model in communicating with one's own children was based on a family scenario, in which periodic outbursts of aggression indicated an overflowing emotional container of adults.
And always confidence in their own righteousness, self-sufficiency and strength. And under such "iron charisma" is a little girl hiding, who wants to snuggle up to mom and dad, just cry, having lost her beautiful face - a mask in a stream of washing tears and a grimace of sadness shriveled by wrinkles. Lips weighted after corrective surgery tremble from surging sobs and an avalanche breaks out.
It can be so difficult to close oneself off, especially since there is no danger around, there are no social patterns imposed by a specialist, there is no way to habitually wrestle. There is only an accepting and supportive look, simple and uncomplicated questions, answering which one can hear one's own voice, one's opinion and one's own view.
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