2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If you have opened an article and already think with indignation: "What nonsense !?" - because you respect this principle, it means that we are on the same side of the barricades! I also respect this principle when it is correctly interpreted. But this is not always the case.
A perverted interpretation of this principle sounds with parentheses: "To live here and now (without perspective)."
But life without perspective is a concentration camp
CONCENTRATION CAMP
At one time, research was conducted that the prospect of prisoners in concentration camps was REDUCED to "survive until the end of the day." They suffered. Every day. Almost every minute. And the worst thing is that they did not know when it would end and whether it would end. This situation of daily violence leads to the principle of enjoying everything, anything, today (an extra piece of bread or a little help for a cellmate) - tomorrow may not come.
TRUE AND FALSE "HERE AND NOW"
The very same principle "here and now" says something else: to be now in those experiences that are relevant. It includes the perspective of tomorrow, without sacrificing the state of today!
In our time, the perversion of the principle, which, in fact, turns it upside down, may sound like this:
- I had a terrible fight with my mother. She is against my marriage to Vlad.
- Oh, what are you! And imagine that mom will not be tomorrow [read: "We live one day"]! Go and make up with her! - sometimes adding more: - Until it's too late!
Do you feel this pleasant, spreading pressure on your guilt feelings? The true principle of "Z-I-S" says in this story, rather, to express anger, indignation, pain from the mother's rejection of the choice of a partner and other feelings. Perverted understanding says: “Forget your feelings! Relationships are above all [even if they are based solely on feelings of guilt and shame]!"
LAST DAY PEOPLE
If life has no perspective, life is not life, but survival. Yes, in order to survive, we may need to maintain some kind of violent relationship - whether we like it or not. There is no talk of freedom, choice, pleasure and pleasure in relationships (and life in general sometimes).
The question is: do we need to live according to the principles of survival in peacetime? Everyone can answer for himself. Personally, I am sometimes sad to watch how desperately survive people who can just live in peace. These can be people of very high status, who often “made themselves”, they can be rich and have a happy marriage (truly happy, and not just “on the front” - outwardly for people). At some point, they began to run away, for example, from poverty and are making great strides, but they continue to carry poverty and fears with them. But this is a bit of a separate topic.
It is true that everyone's life is such that it can end accidentally and unpredictably at almost any moment. But there is a difference between being cut off by unpredictable factors and cutting off your own perspective on your own. I think that those who do not leave themselves the opportunity (and then forbid others, of course) to experience the present, they themselves drive themselves into the conditions of a concentration camp: they themselves cut off their lives in the present day, they themselves erase their perspective and they themselves erase "here and now" - current not always pleasant feelings (but which can change if you give them a course, and not suppress them).
I'm sure the "last day people" may have reasons for this. For example, in families of cruel abusers (rapists), children never know where, when and for what they will come. They learn to survive and react to every rustle so as not to “miss a beat”. Unfortunately, as they grow up and change their lives and their environment, they may still be constantly on the alert. And of course, they want to get the most out of the positives - they often want to get a lot more from them than they can actually give. And the negative moments they are strongly triggered, and they endow them with significantly more terrible images than they really are.
IF TODAY WAS THE LAST DAY …
If I lived today as the last day, I would take a bottle of bourbon, call my girlfriend and drink until morning. Oh, of course, I could spend all the money and take incredible loans for things that I don't really need in the future - so, for pampering TODAY.
And now imagine if I lived every day like the last one?) In fact, this is how I would bring the "last day" closer, right? And even if physical death could come very soon, the psychological and social one would not have kept itself waiting.
Life "like on the last day" includes in us rigid programs - programs of survival, dictating the maximum benefit at the minimum cost, in particular, turning off conscience, for example. This approach sets us up for simple pleasures and for easy unity with people - without boundaries, without fully understanding ourselves next to another; without the effort that is indispensable for a healthy, emotional and quality life.
RESULTS
“Here and now” is not about “no tomorrow,” but about the fact that current experiences are most important, be it depression or euphoria (yes, there are a number of people who forbid themselves to have positive experiences!). In the presence of perspective, both are replaced. And that's okay. This is life - the dynamics of states and new "here and now" every day.
But states can change only when a healthy outlet is found for them, freedom: "Water does not flow under a standing stone." And living like the last day, we bring it closer, first of all, in the psychological sense, but also in the physical - too. We do not build healthy relationships, do not give up unhealthy ones, we can indulge in drug addiction or actions that will simply ruin our life … tomorrow.
Our consciousness differs from animals in that - we have a structure of perspective, which they do not have (they have only the instincts of today). As for me, to deprive yourself of this is to deprive yourself of some part of humanity.
Therefore, if you are lazy today, think about what you are loading and how you can relax. You are overcome with sad thoughts - what led to them, can you cry to someone? Are you feeling very well today? I propose to surrender to this joy, find someone to share it with! The principle “if today is good, tomorrow it will be bad” - certainly works for those who believe in it and thus themselves give birth to this “bad” tomorrow, so do not rush to run into a “bad” tomorrow, pulling it into today.)
And if you have a desire to discuss your current "here and now", then my psychotherapeutic doors are open!)
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