2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Remember we said
Most likely you discovered that the Inner Critic is a soup of different voices of significant adults in your childhood. Once upon a time, you didn't have the opportunity to stop it. But now you've grown. And you can do it. Be on your side. It would be good from now on to always be on your side.
In addition to the Criticism, there is always another, criticized part. Let's try to explore it. To whom, to what inner figure is this aggression directed?
✔️What is this criticized part?
✔️If she could look somehow, how?
✔️When does it appear?
✔️ How do you live it, what do you feel in your body?
✔️ Name her too.
For example, my client (a collective image of the client) described it as follows: it is something small and pathetic, like a jelly, unstable. Appears when I need to give a presentation to an unfamiliar audience. And the Critic says to her: now you screw up and everyone will see how worthless and pitiful you are. And everyone will laugh at you. And I seem to want to shrink and disappear myself. I feel cold and hot at the same time and as if there is something shrinking. Clam. So for some reason I want to call it.
You, of course, will have your own images and sensations. Try to observe a little from the side. Maybe it will be a small child, or a character, or just some kind of color spot. And, as always, write down, sketch, what happened to be explored.
Now is the time to meet the third figure. Let's call him the Inner Defender. The one who will always be on your side.
✔️When can it appear?
✔️ What is he like? Who is he?
✔️How exactly does it manifest itself?
✔️How can he protect?
It is important here that the Defender is not aggressive, but rather merciful. Your task is to train yourself to be more of the critical part. If the Critic said, worthless, for example, then let the Defender first fight back - this is not true. And then what could he say in your defense? And he certainly has something to say! Or do it. Write down the dialogues of all three parts, how could they communicate together? And don't forget that you are bigger than all these parts.
Observe yourself during the day, see if you have the ability to be a protector, someone who supports. Try on this role.
And maybe at first it will seem to you a lot of everything and strange, if you try, you will see that it is not scary. Gradually, the brain will begin to change, but it uses what we feed it.
And if you get to know this inner team of yours and want to continue, come to the session. I would be glad.
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