2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Recently, I tried to explain to a young man a very simple thing that people do not want to admit, although this recognition would greatly facilitate their life and could correct a lot in it.
Once Sergei, (let's call this guy), telling me about his "friend", with whom he corresponded on the Internet, mentioned that this person emanates a oppressive, depressing and sarcastic feeling. And what do you think, Sergei, - I asked - where do you really feel and experience all this? The question was not understood … I asked again, clarifying: how can you feel the other and where (while pointing your finger at your own head)? I will not describe in detail how this thought was reflected at that moment in the agonizing grimace of shock, confusion, distrust and indignation that twisted his face. Seryozha was just sure that all these feelings came from another person and had nothing to do with him. He could not even admit that these were his feelings, that it was he who was experiencing these feelings, and it was “in his head”. Moreover, he sees, hears, feels this world only through himself - through his desires according to the degree of their satisfaction (fullness, fulfillment). In another way, it can still be expressed as: everyone perceives reality, that is, other people, through the prism of their own states.
Do you think you see this world out there … beyond your own skull? Do you think that certain feelings come from other people? I often hear from more than adequate and fully realized people such a "conclusion" - "they think badly of me …; I know what you think of me !; they think of me..". It's okay to attribute your thoughts to others. And this is shown and explained quite simply, and hence it is realized.. Still, thought is a word. But with feelings … somehow it passes harder.
Everything that you see, hear, understand, feel, experience, feel rejoicing or suffering - happens only in your head. This is the subjective world of your reality modeled on the platform of only your individual consciousness. What kind of consciousness - such is the world. Can the world be changed? How can we correct it, correcting it so that it is more satisfying, filling, giving joy and happiness? As many have already seen from their own experience, this is impossible. But, you can change consciousness.
This post was born from a smile at myself … Reading letters, including from the spam folder, I recalled various situations, experiencing certain states associated with certain people, feeling disgust or dislike for them, because "they are so and so! ". And then it suddenly opened up inside, illuminating the face with a sad smile of realization: where do I feel all these "and such and such" people, such and such? - inside myself …
I don’t know if it worked out to explain? Could you find the right words to express your thought and convey it? Often, the simpler a thing is, the more difficult it is to describe it. The problem is that when working with the material of the unconscious, we describe in a word, that is, we try to decode by means of a symbolic row, that which you cannot easily see with these eyes, you cannot hear with your ears, and you cannot touch with pens … There is only one tool - letter (word). So, sometimes, you have to look for words, picking up words like stones, fitting one to the other …
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