2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Often from women you can hear the phrase that a man who used to be fine, suddenly deteriorated. At the same time, the ladies are sincerely concerned about this fact, believing that this is the main reason that their relationship has become less enjoyable for them.
When they tell what the relationship was like before, then by the expression on their face it is noticeable that it was then that they felt really good. They rejoiced at the attention of a hundred side of a man, his respect for himself. Well, just a fairy tale.
But then suddenly he became different, became wrong, something broke in him, he stopped loving her (does not give gifts, does not make compliments, sex has become less frequent), he does not pay attention to her, does not want to talk to her. In a word, it has deteriorated.
Such women are perplexed by the question “Who spoiled him?”. In response, you usually hear: "He himself." But this is not at all the case.
Judge for yourself, at first, when you wanted to please him, you tried to look decent yourself, to react to his attention. Thus, you showed the man that you value him, what he does. And this is very motivating for men. If the woman is happy, the man is satisfied. And in all areas.
Earlier, when he helped you with minor repairs of the house, you told him that he had golden hands. In bed, the same story, you gave him the characteristics of a great lover. And of course the man tried. We like it when we are praised and we want a woman to praise more often. That is why we are trying.
Suddenly (or not all of a sudden) you start living together. And what you previously defined in him as qualities and actions that bring you joy and pleasure, now he takes for granted. At the same time, you devalue, sometimes completely. A simple female phrase: "What is it?" In the sense that he now MUST do it.
What we take for granted cannot please us, and accordingly there is no point in praising for it. A woman ceases to be happy about what a man is doing, because he MUST do it. A man stops receiving messages that she appreciates him, that his actions are important to her. And then he concludes, something like "Why do something if it is not appreciated," and stops doing the same as before.
The woman naturally notices such changes and begins to blame the man for this. But if a man before your life together was good, and later became bad, then you yourself probably had a hand in this. This is not an accusation against women. Rather, it is an opportunity to look at the situation from a different angle.
Relationships are not always euphoric, but meanwhile, it is useful to understand that they are always created by two, and, accordingly, they are also responsible for the relationship together.
Live with joy!
Anton Chernykh
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