Why Try If I Can't?

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Why Try If I Can't?
Why Try If I Can't?
Anonim

Since childhood, I believed in what others were saying. I had a conviction: I am a handshake. My parents had a great example of comparison - my younger sister. She loved delicate work, she embroidered beautifully. Compared to her, I seemed like a difficult case: my hands were not in the right place.

I remember these drawings of trees in elementary school, when I received "stretch marks" for drawing. The attempts of my parents to improve my work, to make it more beautiful, did not help either.

I had a clear opinion: It doesn’t work, there’s nothing to take. Come on by.

But there was a craving for beauty: I liked buying paintings, going to exhibitions, photographing everything around.

How to overcome the fear of trying? Several “permits” given to myself helped me.

Start

At some point, I realized that I wanted to try drawing. And precisely in watercolor. Trying is far more important to me than the fear of failure. I decided to try it and be it: I found a course specifically for beginners and went to study. Let me be kicked out later, but I will go at least once!

I gave myself permission to start. It is very important to at least try what you want. Just get started.

Honesty (Not perfect)

Next, I faced fears. The first was the fear of “not being able”. I was afraid that everyone can draw, but I can’t. With my head I understood that it was stupid: everyone knows how to do it differently. There were those who started from scratch, like me. But it seemed to me that it was getting easier for them, that skills were developed faster. The first lessons they only upset me.

Here it is important to admit to myself: yes, I would like to be faster, better, more beautiful - but that's what I am. I allow myself not to be perfect, but to do it at a pace that is comfortable for me.

Samples

I remember we were asked to draw a bouquet of flowers. And first you need to draw a sketch with a pencil in 10 minutes. Just 10 minutes! I panicked so much that I fell into a stupor. Draw something fast, but good - that's not about me. My insane inner critic got me stuck.

You can fight with such a stupor - allow yourself to try. Don't be afraid to try. Don't be afraid to ask for help. And do not compare your results with others. Then you understand that the task can be handled. Not fast, but possible.

Many chances

I tried, drew with pencil and paints. And quietly, slipping, the work went. I got my first watercolor paintings. I showed my pictures to my mother and she said: “I don’t believe that it is you. I remember how you drew. It can't be you."

Many people have an attitude: Either they have it from birth or not at all.

I realized the mistake of my childhood: I always had only one chance to try. I tried it, it didn't work out - go on, not yours.

And now, as an adult, drawing for myself, I allowed myself to try several times. And yes, not on the first try, but on the second or third, I began to succeed. Because I tried as much as I wanted.

Pleasure

Before, I didn't have a hobby and it really bothered me. And I started going to drawing not for the sake of the result "to draw", but for the sake of the process - "to spend time with interest and pleasure." I didn't want a painting or a skill to come out. I wanted to take paints, paper, turn on music and enjoy the process.

When I stopped wanting results, I stopped limiting myself. I gave myself freedom: if it doesn't work out, then it's okay - I've already enjoyed the drawing process. I allowed myself to enjoy the process, not the result. And it was at this moment that I started to succeed.

These small “permissions” help you enjoy different things. For example, before painting, I tried ceramics. I wanted to sculpt flowerpots, but ashtrays came out. And sometimes I just came to class and just ran my hands with clay - in the manner of meditation. It was complacency. And it gave me pleasure.

This story is about testing: if you want something, try to understand whether you like the activity or not.

There is also this story about myself. Do not for others, not for the result, but for yourself. When we do a job that we like, it develops us. It calms us down. This is our outlet in difficult times. It might be new. Or the old one. But this is definitely you.

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