2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The frantic speeds of the present time, previously unknown diseases, uncertainty about the future make us find ourselves in an almost permanent state of irritation.
And the person is forced to throw out irritation and dissatisfaction. Often - to another person.
A natural question arises for a psychologist:
How to stay calm in the midst of chaos and general irritation?
Let's figure it out together.
I don't like "chess players".
No - no, this is not about athletes with highly developed intelligence.
This is about those who constantly cuts on the road, “forgets” to turn on the turn signal at a traffic light, constantly poses a threat not only to safety, but also to human life.
I am angry with such drivers, sometimes I swear hard and … I turn on the music. Usually heavy music to growl and your anger.
There are enough such "chess players" in our life and off the road.
Both at work and in everyday life.
Sometimes they appear in personal life as well. We call them abuser. People who commit physical or psychological violence to others.
How do you respond to aggression? What's going on with you?
Are you overreacting to the offender, real or imaginary, does anger overwhelm you? Do you want to immediately fight back, answer him in kind - get nasty, push away, catch up and slow down?
And a lot in your life depends on your response.
Anger can pour out even on the closest people who, in fact, can accidentally fall under your hot hand.
Well, further, you know,
word for word, higher and more, and just a little bit is left to come to an "eye for an eye" relationship
I suggest several effective ways to cope with irritation. - Look at the irritant as a reflection of your personal problems.
We sometimes just mirror the moments of our own dissatisfaction in a person.
- Let go of unjustified expectations.
Be honest with yourself - these are your desires, not someone else's.
You are waiting for the person to react in a pleasant way to your act. And he may have a different opinion and reaction on this matter.
- Take a close look at the triggers that lead you to anger and irritation.
Unfinished experiences in the distant past are often triggers. And they burst into your present life, make you vulnerable and especially vulnerable.
- Come up with a metaphor for yourself that characterizes you in a moment of irritation or anger.
Use your imagination whenever you feel like a protective dam of anger is about to burst.
- Explore your emotions, where they live in your body.
Read the literature, learn more about emotions, try to decipher what they want to warn you and tell you about.
- Exercise is an important helper in removing your negative emotions.
Before sorting out the relationship, you can walk in the park, run, ride a bike. See, it will be much more effective than a momentary scandal!
Emotions should never be kept in oneself
It is very important that you can speak, share, tell a person who understands and supports you.
Of course, it is best to deal with these issues with a psychologist.
Irritability, anger, anger - these are not the feelings that you need to squeeze in yourself!
You need to work with them!
If it does not work out on your own, ask for help:
Do you often get annoyed? How do you deal with irritation?
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