2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
One of the proven and very effective ways to help yourself are writing practices.
These techniques are useful in that they allow you to more clearly formulate your thoughts, look at the situation, person, relationship from the outside.
There are many different algorithms for how to write these letters.
In this article, I want to talk about how to write a letter to a significant person for you, with whom the relationship is strained or completely interrupted for some reason. But he remains to live in your inner world, you periodically conduct internal dialogues with him.
Often such figures are our parents, former lovers, people who have greatly influenced you and your life.
For work, I recommend taking a blank A4 sheet of paper and a pen. It is very important to write letters by hand, and not on a computer, since with this option you are in direct contact with your body and plus connect your unconscious.
Before writing, imagine the person you want to contact and start pouring on paper all those thoughts, feelings and sensations that you have. Turn off your mind and logic as much as possible, allow the inner flow to pour out of you onto paper. Write until you understand that it is enough for today.
If before writing a letter you fall into a stupor and your head is empty, then the following questions can help you
How has this person influenced my life?
What could I not tell him directly?
What feelings do I have for him?
For what I cannot forgive him, I am angry and offended?
What expectations and hopes did it fail to meet?
What do I still expect from him?
There may be several such letters. I recommend writing at least 3 emails with 2-3 days intervals between. Thus, it will be possible to track how your attitude towards the person and the situation as a whole has changed.
If after writing letters nothing has changed for you, then think about how much you allowed yourself to write all that accumulated inside, whether you managed to turn off logic and reason, whether you managed to allow yourself to be honest and sincere at least on paper, do you really want to let go past grudges and this person or it is important for you to hold on to them.
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