2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Hello my dear readers! I bring to your attention a useful technique for working with toxic messages that enter our energy space from an aggressive "enemy" - people who are dangerously unfriendly to us. In situations of a point and chronic order. I mean all kinds of unacceptable desecrations - dignity, honor, feelings.
The practice is very environmentally friendly. Not continuing the aggression. With the protective effect of the unacceptably offended side.
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To begin with, I will remind readers of one old legend - "The Parable of the Unaccepted Gift" as presented by Boris Grebenshchikov.
And the same meaning in the famous aphorism of Khayyam.
Based on the wisdom presented above, the proposed strategy is built -
Beyond your world
Consistent presentation of practice.
Stage I. "Failure of the pendulum."
Remember the famous trick of Vadim Zeland, which he called "Pendulum Failure"? I will quote a short excerpt from the book "The Space of Variants" …
The whole secret is that the defender has nothing against the attack. He agrees with the line of the attacker, walks with him for a while, and then lets go. The energy of the attacker falls into the void, because if the defender is "empty" then there is nothing to hook him on.
In a situation of unexpected aggression, you (whether you agree or not) find yourself on a common "military field", but … Do not get involved in the battle, if you do not want this - step aside - and the mine will "slip" by.
In a practical application, this tutorial looks like this:
1.do not get involved in the hateful squabble, 2. and do not accept aggressive "shelling", 3. just mentally "move away" - and-and-and "injury" will not happen.
Stage II. "Caesar - Caesar, or each in his own scenario."
It is very important that at the end of the aggression that has taken place, you do not attribute the blame to yourself: they say, everything happened because of me and because of my badness.
In no case
The aggressor may not be accidental in your story (I mean the deep mental algorithms), but he is definitely not aggression through your fault, but according to the winged words of I. Krylov …
"Oh, what am I to blame?" - "Shut up! I'm tired of listening, Leisure for me to sort out your guilt, puppy!
You are to blame for the fact that I want to eat."
- He said and dragged the Lamb into the dark forest.
Remember: if you "dig" your guilt, you will follow the lead of the aggressor - he is counting on the victim, so your guilt plays into his hands …
In this case, you are on the side of the enemy …
So…
1. leave the aggressor in his favorite scenario - military battles, conquests and defeats - this is his story;
2. Divide, withdraw to your own;
3.and keep yourself in a balanced and peaceful space - no war or shelling.
To each his own! Agree!
Stage III. Outside your world
And now we come to the most significant stage of my methodology - affirming your stability.
So now, when …
1. You took yourself off the battlefield and
2. Separate your story from the story of the enemy, do something else …
Mentally carry out the remnants of "combat" impressions outside your world, together with the enemy figure and the possibility of repeated attacks. And then - build over yourself a mental, defensive dome, like an "iron" one for intercepting and destroying missiles penetrating into you. You can create mirrored protection: everything that is addressed to you is returned back to the sender. So the aggressor, whether he wants it or not, will be punished by himself. Let him live by his own laws! To each his own - remember?
That's the whole technique, dear friends. Defensive, ecological and wise. Strengthening your boundaries.
I will finish the publication with one more aphorism.
I suggest you stay diamonds! Even in the most difficult circumstances
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