2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Today, at one of the therapy meetings, the following request was sorted out:
perfectionism and procrastination, how to cope?
Speech in a specific case in the following …
The client brought into the dialogue the presence of simultaneous dual manifestations …
On the one side…
1. Perfectionism inherent in her.
That is, an orientation towards the ideal execution of actual realizations.
With another…
2. Procrastination.
That is, a simple implementation once launched, in the event that the promoted projects do not match the ideal templates.
In the process of researching the request brought to work, the following useful insights and a clarifying metaphor arose with the client. I'll tell you …
1. In the dual manifestation of the client (through perfectionism and procrastination) there is an internal, mental conflict that requires a solution.
2. This conflict can be identified through opposing subpersonalities in need of reconciliation.
3. In the process of clarifying the opposing subpersonalities, we come to a fabulous metaphor that opened up a lot of important clues.
The subpersonality that expresses the perfectionism of this woman (that is, eternal service to established models) was revealed to us, like fabulous Malvina … Subpersonality associated with the sabotage of the adopted prescriptions, like the fairytale hero Pinocchio.
In my opinion, very apt!
4. In the course of further discussion, we come to the conclusion: Malvina (personifying a woman's perfectionism) expresses the social or parental function of her personality; Pinocchio (sabotaging the established framework-restrictions) - a spiritual, inner child.
5. We ponder the situation further and take an important conclusion: a woman's procrastination is associated with the fact that she does not respond in her personal, unique core, despite the ideal (from the point of view of the parent) prescriptions. The inner child sabotages material that is not in tune with itself, demanding respect for itself.
6. We return to the metaphor and remember an important fairy ending: it is Pinocchio (that is, a living, creative soul) who improves the unhappy puppet script, giving the enslaved characters a new, happy life. Therefore, it is very important to take into account the voice of your soul, harmonizing it with the voice of reason (or the voice of prescriptions).
7. We conclude the work by recognizing both parts, with respect for the importance of each, combining their tendencies in a general direction - useful for the individual as a whole.
The session turned out to be beautiful and revealing, with useful material for many. That's why I share! I will finish publishing the final song from the cult film "The Adventures of Buratino". Best wishes to the readers!
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