2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Now, on the last days of New Year's, is the time to part with all unnecessary things. The rubbish that has been accumulating over the years and littering our living space.
But what about the "obsolete" relationship? How to understand when to leave, and when it makes sense to save and revive the relationship?
What if there is no more love? Don't you have that huge attraction to each other? What if we live together only for the sake of "children" or because - that the common mortgage, because it contains, because "where will I go?"
When people live in the negative every day and thus generate negativity around them. And someday you will be punished for this, such cohabitation does not bring happiness to anyone.
When considering whether to get a divorce or not, be sure to deal with the real reasons why you can no longer live in one space, under one roof.
Think about: Why did you become such strangers to each other. Why did you attract such a partner and such events into your life? What do you have in common? What life tasks did you need to solve through the suffering that you are going through now? What attracted you to your partner when you met? Did he have those qualities for which, as you thought, you fell in love with him or is it just your fantasies? Are these qualities important to you today or have your values changed? Try to be honest with yourself and answer these questions.
This work is necessary for you to get rid of the haze of illusions and understand what is really important and necessary for you in a relationship. What qualities do you need to see in your partner, without which you cannot trust him?
To understand whether there is a future in your relationship or not, pay attention to three important components, without which a harmonious relationship is absolutely impossible.
The first is trust. Trust presupposes understanding and acceptance of the human soul. Trust is faith in each other's sincere feelings, it is a conscious choice in favor of loyalty and devotion. This is a desire for goodness for your partner. Without trust in each other, you will not advance further and it will be the first step from animal passion to human love.
The second component is soulfulness in a relationship. It is important to be sensitive and understanding to your partner. You need to be able to listen to him, show sympathy and understanding in difficult situations for him. If you need to - help to find peace of mind or just support with your peace of mind.
The third and important component is the bodily basis of love relationships. At the very least, your partner's body should be pleasing to you. The smell of the body, touch - all this should not cause rejection. And, I must admit, men are usually wiser in this sense than women. Rarely does a man marry a woman who is not physically attracted to him. At the same time, women, on the contrary, from mercantile interests enter into marriage without taking into account these factors. They motivate this with different reasons - he loves me, he is all so correct and positive, he earns good money and treats me, he leads a healthy lifestyle, I'm already over … it's time to have children, etc.
Now that you've done a revision in your relationship and see what components are in yours. Marriage is present and which are not.
Without bodily attraction, without Trust in each other and sincerity in a relationship, neither love nor marriage is possible!
If, when entering into marriage, you were guided by your own calculations, then you can be prepared in the future for the fact that sooner or later you will be comprehended by diseases and other sufferings associated with destructive processes not only in relationships, but also in other areas of your life. For example, in work, in creativity and, finally, your very personality.
Now the choice is yours. And if it is still difficult for you to make a choice or you know that there is love, but you cannot get everything right, contact a specialist.
Write, call - I like you! And if you liked the note - like it and share with your friends.
With love and respect, Inna Sotnikova
Recommended:
“You Must Leave Her! There Is Nothing You Can Do To Help Her! " Does The Therapist Have The Right Not To Continue Psychotherapy. Case From Practice
Reflecting on the toxicity of our profession in general and public contact in particular, I recall an instructive incident. He describes a not quite typical professional problem, which corresponds to the same atypical solution. Both the problem described and its solution in this case are not in the field of theory and methodology of psychotherapy, but in the field of professional and personal ethics.
On The Verge Of Making A Decision To Leave The Family
Author: Nadezhda Vyacheslavovna Arkhangelskaya psychologist, online consultant supervisor In our country, where patriarchal values dominate to this day, a man often experiences fear and awe from his decisive actions. Is leaving the family always a drama?
How To Leave Groundhog Day
Recommended for reading on the way to work on Monday morning, Sunday evening, and also when you want to throw a pile of papers off the table, clasp your head in your hands and ask the question "Where am I going?" and "What am I doing here?
You Can't Leave To Stay
Recently, I have often come across situations when an interesting adult working person turns out to be a "hostage" of good parents. In his 30s, and sometimes with a long tail over 40, this man or woman has already received a higher education, found a job, often achieved good financial independence, but they can only dream of independence and personal independence.
I WANT TO LEAVE MARRIAGE - Instructions For Getting Out And Getting In
How many articles and books have been written on this topic, but still the topic of marriage does not lose its relevance. Many cannot meet their soul mate and suffer for years, losing hope and self-esteem. I also decided to share my thoughts and recommendations in this regard.
