Block After Quarrel

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Block after an argument. In the digital XXI century, love and family relationships are increasingly becoming virtual, exist and develop with the help of gadgets. A significant part of communication begins to take place in instant messengers and social networks installed on mobile phones. The logic here is simple: the more positive communication in a couple, the more communication on the phone; the more negative communication in a couple, the less communication on the phone. Hence, many men and women, at the time of acute conflicts in a couple, are tempted to interrupt the psychologically unpleasant communication for them in the simplest way - just block a friend / girlfriend or husband / wife on the phone. According to the famous Stalinist scheme: "if there is a person - there is a problem, if there is no person - there is no problem!"

But, there is one "but" here, which is often not taken into account. The point is in the nuances of the psychology of men and women. ♦ According to polls, the majority of girls (of course, not all, but many), having blocked their man, are quite clearly aware of the fact that this is just-forever a game! Girls, as a rule, think that by doing so, they are simply “educating” their men, seeking from them more controllability in behavior. By itself, this approach is due to the fact that women in relationships, due to the high degree of psychological dependence on men, often behave less fundamentally than men. That is, in words, women usually declare: “I do not forgive anything! If they don't respect me, they raise their voice at me, hit me, don't report to me, cheat on me, don't pick up the phone when I call (etc.), then I will immediately break up with such a man once and for all. " … But, in fact, this usually does not happen. After a couple of days, or even a couple of hours, the girl goes to reconciliation with the man, as if nothing had happened. Often - without even remembering the conflict that happened.

This feature of the psychology of girls is clearly manifested in telephone communication. To block a man in instant messengers and social networks, the girl knows for sure that this is not forever and she is sure that this blocking will motivate the man either to search for a personal meeting, or to call her from another number with apologies. But the trouble is that in male psychology, blocking is perceived not as a way to educate or stimulate communication according to different rules, but in a different way:

• - as a way to humiliate another person, as if showing him that he is not an equal, nothing depends on him, they communicate with him not when he wants to, but when another person wants it;
• - as a way to show that communication ends once and for all; accordingly, from this point in time, both partners have the right to build their own personal and intimate relationship with someone else.

Men themselves, usually, block their girlfriends or wives, only in case of their extreme scandalousness, when a woman falls into hysterical states and seeks to achieve something from a man at any cost, paralyzing his business activity with his calls and messages.

♦ That is, blocking each other by partners in relationships equally irritates men and women, equally leads to severe resentments and a gradual deterioration of relations in a couple, however, on the part of men, the negative accumulates much faster. Even in the midst of a quarrel, to block her man, the girl still proceeds from a positive attitude that “we are a couple, we will cool down after a falling out, make up and still be together”. Men, on the other hand, are most often touchy pessimists who, in response to blocking, put the matter “on principle” and try not to communicate with their girlfriend / wife, even though they suffer greatly mentally. Especially in those cases when they already asked the girl / wife "never to do this again", but she still blocked it again …

Hence, there are various consequences. A girl blocked by a man, most often, behaves according to the logic of the well-known proverb "we are at the door, they are at the window", trying at any cost to enter into a dialogue with him and convey something to his brain (or bite him). That is, she can also block him in response, but still look for an opportunity to meet with him or talk on the phone or on social networks. A man blocked by a girl, most often, blocks her in response and does not make any attempts to communicate at all. And then he is already going on a date with another.

Such masculine behavior is very surprising for the girls, who were counting on a completely different behavior. That is, behavior similar to their own.

Girls are regularly surprised that men take seriously

what sounds from girls and what they do.

And such female surprise all the more confuses men! They generally do not understand what to pay attention to and how to react. And men do not know that:

No matter how a woman is unhappy with her man, she will always stay with him until she finds herself another.

When a woman finds herself another, she will be ready

to leave the existing man, even if he is quite good.

However, this is a separate topic of conversation, we will not go into it.

What did I want to say in this article? I definitely advise both men and girls never to use such a clarification tool as blocking their partner / spouse on the phone and social networks! This leads to new grievances, increases the risk of mutual betrayal, creates in men the feeling that the relationship is completely over. And most importantly, it further worsens the position of the girls, who themselves chop the branch on which they are sitting. Paradoxically, pushing men away from themselves when they themselves want to bring them closer.

Instead of blocking, I still advise you to conduct a dialogue through correspondence in messages, trying not to go into mutual insults, but to discuss the situation on the merits and offer some specific options for solving it. From this, your relationship will definitely improve! Proven by the practice of my work!

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