2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Today there is an abundance of information about narcissism. On the one hand, this is good, because education is helpful.
On the other hand, society is caught up in the syndrome of a 1st year student of a medical university, when attempts are made to search for and detect in itself and other various diseases from the medical assistant's handbook.
Devaluation is one of the characteristics of the narcissistic personality.
However, some already accept as devaluation attempts to critically comprehend any phenomenon.
As a result, we are dealing with a cognitive distortion that blocks the individual's attempts to understand the issue, subject it to analysis, blocking freedom of thought and self-expression, protection of one's interests, as well as critical thinking in general, which plays a large role in a person's ability to test reality, argue, look for new solutions.
According to people who have such mental distortions, a person should avoid criticizing anything, he has no right to doubt. Thus, there is a devaluation of a person's ability to think critically, analyze, and ask questions.
It is clear that such a person is inconvenient for many, therefore, the one who accuses him of devaluation himself projects his narcissistic qualities, for any criticism is painful for him and he does not find worthy arguments and suggestions.
Let's see how criticism differs from depreciation
Criticism also varies. There is a type of people who criticize indiscriminately. Their criticism is mostly emotional and not supported by any arguments.
A person who criticizes constructively, notes in the phenomenon not only shortcomings, but also advantages, can explain his point of view.
Criticism (from the French critique from Old-Greek toριτική τέχνη "the art of disassembling, judgment") - analysis, assessment and judgment about the phenomena of any area of human activity. The tasks of criticism are: identification of contradictions; identification of errors and their analysis; analysis (analysis), discussion of something in order to give an assessment; negative judgment about something, indication of shortcomings and search for ways to eliminate them; research, scientific verification of the reliability, authenticity of something (for example, criticism of the text, criticism of historical sources); feedback, discussion of something in order to express your point of view; grade.
Criticism is not intended to annihilate a phenomenon, but to improve it or clarify it
Depreciation - it is, more often than not, a destructive, psychological defense of a person who is extremely sensitive to criticism, failure, rejection. Devaluation is precisely aimed at annihilating the phenomenon.
The devaluing person usually cannot provide any arguments for his position. His resistance is non-constructive, emotional, affective or passive aggressive.
For example, when the interlocutor has doubts about something and brings it up for discussion, asks questions, he does not receive constructive answers from the other side, except for accusations of devaluation, aggression, ignoring and other toxic patterns, up to the point that they completely stop with you. communication.
The devalued person also annihilates the success of other people, the good qualities of their personality.
Real life examples:
- Passed the exam for the top five?
- Yes.
- Did you put fives for everyone?
“What are you doing? Do you make money? Who doesn't earn them! You are a man? All men earn money."
"You're a woman? All women give birth and sit with children and clean up and cook! Why are you so tired?"
"You defended your thesis - but who is not defending a thesis now?"
Devaluation of “everything and everyone” can lead to a loss of interest in life and in people.
Self-depreciation blocks a person's achievement of success, dooming him to go with the flow, living in anguish for the rest of his days.
There are individuals who, for manipulative purposes, mistake constructive narcissism for destruction.
Constructive narcissism means recognizing your own value, without losing interest in other people, striving for self-affirmation through your efforts, arguments, and not belittling others, the ability to perceive constructive, well-founded criticism, be tolerant of your mistakes and the mistakes of other people, if they are not fatal …
A person with constructive narcissism communicates with others only on the basis of reciprocity, when the other is open to dialogue and movement towards.
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