Mother! Take My Choice! Or "Fatal Passion"

Video: Mother! Take My Choice! Or "Fatal Passion"

Video: Mother! Take My Choice! Or "Fatal Passion"
Video: Rubdown (1993) 2024, March
Mother! Take My Choice! Or "Fatal Passion"
Mother! Take My Choice! Or "Fatal Passion"
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We will forever remain children in relation to our parents, but we often forget that we have grown up and even being independent people a long time ago, we are emotionally dependent on the assessments of our parents.

Woman. She is already over sixty.

Divorced for a long time. The children have grown up. Lives in a civil marriage with another man for almost 20 years.

Her mom is alive. An old, feeble old woman with a sharp tongue.

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She, the one who is over 60, found someone with whom she is comfortable and she is happy in her simple home happiness.

But now, she, who lived and saw life, survived oncology, overcame losses, complains: "Mom, she never accepted my choice!"

She is about him - about the one with whom she has been living for 20 years and with whom she feels good.

And mom, reminds of her ex-husband and wounds her sixty-year-old child …

Mom also had a husband, but when he was gone, mom decided to live alone. And this is her choice.

And the daughter is different. She loves life, and she needs a man.

And she found him. And happy.

And mom …

Sometimes the daughter asks “Mom? And do you know how old I am? and she herself immediately reminds her that she is already 60.

Mom answered: “You're lying. Can not be! How old am I?"

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The old woman has probably forgotten … or … is simply manipulating her daughter.

And, daughter, out of habit, she is "led" and gets upset: "Mom, she never accepted him!"

But he helps both her and her mother.

Somewhere in the backyard of consciousness, the voice of her daughter now, about whose age she herself forgets: "How long will you be a child, mom!? !!!"

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What can I tell her?

You made a choice. You feel good. And now you listen to mother's words - and you feel bad.

Mom is not forever. Do you think it will be easier later?

Do you want to know the truth: Mom will not be, but the words will remain.

And you will shed tears for the rest of your life that your mother did not accept your choice?

Funny, isn't it..?

- Really funny. You are a mother yourself, you have grown-up children who make their own choices, and you do not always agree with them.

And they still do them, and will do them! And in this they are right. And you know it.

But why do you yourself then reject your own choice together with your mother's words?

Do you still care about your mother's opinion, although she is a weak old woman for a long time, who now looks more like a child and needs you much more than you do?

You don’t understand this, but your mother understands, and pulls you by the strings, as if reproaching you for not choosing her.

That you did not become a nurse with her, but you live with someone with whom you feel good.

You know, you are no longer a girl, you are sixty, as your mother once was, as when you started a new life, choosing someone with whom you feel good.

Mom says, and you suffer, not noticing how your mother’s resentment becomes yours, because you allowed yourself to grow up and choose not her.

But mom is not a man! Although … such passions suit you!

And you, according to the plot of the MAMA melodrama, suffer violently.

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What you can give her, you already give - gratitude and daughter's love.

Love her like a mom.

Parents are not chosen, they can only be accepted, but this does not mean that you need to agree with them in everything and refuse what (who) is good for you!

Author: Serdyuk Alevtina Aleksandrovna

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